A Lost love, you had himthen lost him what happened

12 replies · 5304 views · Started by Miss. Soulful · May 2005

Macon, GA

Miss. Soulful Macon, GA

I know for me I was with this boy and if you knew him like really really knew him you would think that it was too good to be true. I know I did, I wasn't stupid now I didn't fall head over heels in love just because he knew the right thing to say and when to say it or any of that. We were together for a good year. He never cheated, never lied, we almost never had an argument unless you count which football team was better or what sport was better football or basketball. I met his parents he met mine all that good stuff. Now I don't like to fall in love easily because my heart is fragile, i don't want to risk it, when I fall in love it will be one time only.( hopefully) He accepted this and had no problem telling me when he felt he was in love with me.I thought things were going so well. Till one day going on to our 2nd year, I called him up to make plans for the weekend , I was going to tell him that I loved him. Anyway when I did, he sounded upset, and the next thing i remember he said he needed time alone and broke up with me, :sad: I still don't understand to this day what happened. I tried to be a friend when all is friends acted like they didn't care or at least thats what they wanted me to think, but everytime I tried to talk to him he said he had to call me back. I don't know. I know my first thought was that it was another girl or something but, he could have told me that plus I know one of his family memberswould have told me. That was 7 months ago, my friends tell me I'm crazy cause I havent talked to him in 4 months, but I pray for him every night, and I refuse to get into another serious relationship because no one can compare to him and what we had. Sad huh? I poured out my heart pour out yours.

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saxxxmepoetically from akron, OH · May 2005

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first of all im goin to tell you what i think you did wrong cause it sounds like one of my situations... if you did tell him that you loved him, you really threw his whole thought process off. he may have thought that you were that **** lover friend type person and that the emotions werent going to be invovled. now that he knows how you feel about him, it scares him and he's not ready for that. my situation, its a few guys that i thought i couldve had something with. but my first love, he got someone pregnant and i couldnt handle it. the rebound guy.. the 1 after him, i just moved to fast and wanted more that what they did.( like ^^^^) now im to a point where if i cant talk to you about another ni99ah then i cant consider you to be with me. because i need a friend first. but movin to fast, and not reading the situation the same way that males read it, is a common mistake that females make, and thats why they cant figure out why the once perfect relationship went sour when they confessed their feelings.

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Sweet_Girl from Maryland, MD · May 2005

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I can relate to this topic because through this past year I have gone through the same thing. I met a guy I really cared about and he let me know the same thing. It sometimes is hard to understand things that happen because you do not always do something to cause it to happen. For a long time I woundered why this guy just suddenly stopped talking to me. I then talked to some of my boys who helped me understand things better. I can tell you though most likely it was not you that cause things to break up. It was your friend that had or has issues on the matter. For what ever reason, may be he has been hurt or when things started to get serious, did not know how to take it so he just did not deal with you at all. It does not mean that he doesn't care about you or when he stoped talking to you that he did care, it is just that he has issues and they got in the way of what you had. But another thing I can say if you feel that strongly for him maybe you need to approach the situation because you may regret it. I regret not making this guy that I knew talk to me and tell me what's up. In so I found out that he was in love with me. Well That is life but dont let what has happen to you make you miss out on anyone else. He might had been tight with you but if he could not respect you anough to be a man and come straight with his feelings than he does not deserve to have you. I hope I have helped.

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ClassyWisdom08 · May 2005

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nikki wrote:
I know for me I was with this boy and if you knew him like really really knew him you would think that it was too good to be true. I know I did, I wasn't stupid now I didn't fall head over heels in love just because he knew the right thing to say and when to say it or any of that. We were together for a good year. He never cheated, never lied, we almost never had an argument unless you count which football team was better or what sport was better football or basketball. I met his parents he met mine all that good stuff. Now I don't like to fall in love easily because my heart is fragile, i don't want to risk it, when I fall in love it will be one time only.( hopefully) He accepted this and had no problem telling me when he felt he was in love with me.I thought things were going so well. Till one day going on to our 2nd year, I called him up to make plans for the weekend , I was going to tell him that I loved him. Anyway when I did, he sounded upset, and the next thing i remember he said he needed time alone and broke up with me, :sad: I still don't understand to this day what happened. I tried to be a friend when all is friends acted like they didn't care or at least thats what they wanted me to think, but everytime I tried to talk to him he said he had to call me back. I don't know. I know my first thought was that it was another girl or something but, he could have told me that plus I know one of his family memberswould have told me. That was 7 months ago, my friends tell me I'm crazy cause I havent talked to him in 4 months, but I pray for him every night, and I refuse to get into another serious relationship because no one can compare to him and what we had. Sad huh? I poured out my heart pour out yours.

It seems as though, you're holding on to something that may or may not have even been there in the first place. As difficult as it may seem, you have to get closure to end your heartache so that the healing process may began. This guy doesn't seem interested in you because he wouldn't let months go by without even calling. If disinterest is not the case, fear could be a factor. He could be scared of those very words that you uttered to him.

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Blutifully Human from Washington, DC · May 2005

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MissJazzyAKA wrote:
nikki wrote:
I know for me I was with this boy and if you knew him like really really knew him you would think that it was too good to be true. I know I did, I wasn't stupid now I didn't fall head over heels in love just because he knew the right thing to say and when to say it or any of that. We were together for a good year. He never cheated, never lied, we almost never had an argument unless you count which football team was better or what sport was better football or basketball. I met his parents he met mine all that good stuff. Now I don't like to fall in love easily because my heart is fragile, i don't want to risk it, when I fall in love it will be one time only.( hopefully) He accepted this and had no problem telling me when he felt he was in love with me.I thought things were going so well. Till one day going on to our 2nd year, I called him up to make plans for the weekend , I was going to tell him that I loved him. Anyway when I did, he sounded upset, and the next thing i remember he said he needed time alone and broke up with me, :sad: I still don't understand to this day what happened. I tried to be a friend when all is friends acted like they didn't care or at least thats what they wanted me to think, but everytime I tried to talk to him he said he had to call me back. I don't know. I know my first thought was that it was another girl or something but, he could have told me that plus I know one of his family memberswould have told me. That was 7 months ago, my friends tell me I'm crazy cause I havent talked to him in 4 months, but I pray for him every night, and I refuse to get into another serious relationship because no one can compare to him and what we had. Sad huh? I poured out my heart pour out yours.
It seems as though, you're holding on to something that may or may not have even been there in the first place. As difficult as it may seem, you have to get closure to end your heartache so that the healing process may began. This guy doesn't seem interested in you because he wouldn't let months go by without even calling. If disinterest is not the case, fear could be a factor. He could be scared of those very words that you uttered to him.

hit it on the nail. Only God knows what his issues are, but bottom line is...the boy has issues. There is something deeper than all of this that he hasn't explained to u. **** that he has to be a punk about, but hey...that's how it can be sometimes. Just remember..."the one that got away is simply the one that u were never supposed to have in the long run". U may have lost him, but there is a reason why u guys aren't together right now. A reason that u probably won't understand until a long time from now, if that. Just have to learn from the experience & have faith that something better is awaiting u in your future. It could be him after he matures a little more, or it could be someone else. Only God knows

Kinkee · May 2005

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where's my halo? wrote:
MissJazzyAKA wrote:
nikki wrote:
I know for me I was with this boy and if you knew him like really really knew him you would think that it was too good to be true. I know I did, I wasn't stupid now I didn't fall head over heels in love just because he knew the right thing to say and when to say it or any of that. We were together for a good year. He never cheated, never lied, we almost never had an argument unless you count which football team was better or what sport was better football or basketball. I met his parents he met mine all that good stuff. Now I don't like to fall in love easily because my heart is fragile, i don't want to risk it, when I fall in love it will be one time only.( hopefully) He accepted this and had no problem telling me when he felt he was in love with me.I thought things were going so well. Till one day going on to our 2nd year, I called him up to make plans for the weekend , I was going to tell him that I loved him. Anyway when I did, he sounded upset, and the next thing i remember he said he needed time alone and broke up with me, :sad: I still don't understand to this day what happened. I tried to be a friend when all is friends acted like they didn't care or at least thats what they wanted me to think, but everytime I tried to talk to him he said he had to call me back. I don't know. I know my first thought was that it was another girl or something but, he could have told me that plus I know one of his family memberswould have told me. That was 7 months ago, my friends tell me I'm crazy cause I havent talked to him in 4 months, but I pray for him every night, and I refuse to get into another serious relationship because no one can compare to him and what we had. Sad huh? I poured out my heart pour out yours.
It seems as though, you're holding on to something that may or may not have even been there in the first place. As difficult as it may seem, you have to get closure to end your heartache so that the healing process may began. This guy doesn't seem interested in you because he wouldn't let months go by without even calling. If disinterest is not the case, fear could be a factor. He could be scared of those very words that you uttered to him.