okay im facing a problem within my relationship...this post is a little long but i wanted to give yall details...please respond with GOOD advice.
aii well me and my boyfriend met when he lived in new york. at the time i had just got out of something, and wasnt really trying to get into anything. he understood and we were just cool. he moved to north carolina because he got a scholarship to play ball at duke. about 8 almost 9 months ago we got together (yes he was in nc and i was in ny)...things were good, he knew i had a trust issue and he said he was willing to gain my trust which he did. things were going real good, i mean even though we were in different states we were still close as all hell. he grew to be one of my best friends, i mean he was there when i lost one of the pple in my crew, and was there when a few months later i lost my best friend...he was actually the one who pushed me to start doing good in school again. (now i know your tryna see where the problems come in...im getting to it.) well recently (past month or so), we havent been as close, i mean we used to talk on the phone ALL day, but now its not like that. when i call him he is always on the other line and needs to call me back, ill call sometimes he wont pick up the phone and later will say his aunt had it or his cusin. and like if he is on the other line he will say its with his mom or aunt or some family member...thing is he isnt THAT close with his family. like i said he gained my trust, but that female instinct is telling me that other stuff is going down..GRANTED he does have a lot going on in his life right now, and ive been right there by his side through it all, but it just seems like we are falling apart. i told him that i felt we were falling apart and ask if he still wants to stay together, he tells me he does and loves me more then anything...just i dont know anymore. its hard now being so distant, er'time he is supposed to come to new york something happens. i just dont know what to do...PLEASE GIMME YOUR THOUGHTS! thanx, yeah i know this is long...sorry :grin:
okay im facing a problem within my relationship...this post is a little long but i wanted to give yall details...please respond with GOOD advice.
aii well me and my boyfriend met when he lived in new york. at the time i had just got out of something, and wasnt really trying to get into anything. he understood and we were just cool. he moved to north carolina because he got a scholarship to play ball at duke. about 8 almost 9 months ago we got together (yes he was in nc and i was in ny)...things were good, he knew i had a trust issue and he said he was willing to gain my trust which he did. things were going real good, i mean even though we were in different states we were still close as all hell. he grew to be one of my best friends, i mean he was there when i lost one of the pple in my crew, and was there when a few months later i lost my best friend...he was actually the one who pushed me to start doing good in school again. (now i know your tryna see where the problems come in...im getting to it.) well recently (past month or so), we havent been as close, i mean we used to talk on the phone ALL day, but now its not like that. when i call him he is always on the other line and needs to call me back, ill call sometimes he wont pick up the phone and later will say his aunt had it or his cusin. and like if he is on the other line he will say its with his mom or aunt or some family member...thing is he isnt THAT close with his family. like i said he gained my trust, but that female instinct is telling me that other stuff is going down..GRANTED he does have a lot going on in his life right now, and ive been right there by his side through it all, but it just seems like we are falling apart. i told him that i felt we were falling apart and ask if he still wants to stay together, he tells me he does and loves me more then anything...just i dont know anymore. its hard now being so distant, er'time he is supposed to come to new york something happens. i just dont know what to do...PLEASE GIMME YOUR THOUGHTS! thanx, yeah i know this is long...sorry :grin:
I used to be in that same situation, and I just decided to end things and just remain cool with him, even tho i loved him. First the distance was too much for us, we wanted to see each other a lot, he visited me on my Christmas break for 2 weeks which was good but then it just seemed like we were growing apart. With ya dude being at college you know he got plenty of grls approaching him and although he may care for you, he's got emotions just like you do. He could be confused and feel torn b/t keeping you happy and himself happy. But it can work out for the best, only if both of you agree that you both want to make it work. I hope everything works out.
if ur not for sure that he's "messin around" with some other girls maybe u should fall back and give him some space and see how he reacts to it. if he doesnt start callin u and askin where u at and all that good stuff i say confront him and tell him how u feel...
*start singing MYA* Should I stay Should I go I dont kno.
I kno wat ur goin through sumtimes I wonder y do i even bother. Like mizz Focused247 said if u feel something aint right fall back. If its meant to be it will be. See guys are like this, U see how it was hard for him to get u, he had to gain ur trust etc. It was a challenge for him. But once they feel like they got u they stop doing the cute lil things they used to do to get u. He probably does still love u but for him its like that my girl wateva i got her. Just fall back from im for a hot min. let him think about it.
From one New Yorker to the next............. U'll be aiight girl.
yeah i feel all of yall...ahh!! i hate love sometimes, it puts you in the worst places. and leaves you confused as all what!! but yeah imma sit and observe and see what happens i think. if things dont get better then imma have to do the hardest thing ive had to do in a long time. its just like damn i dont wanna leave, but i dunno how much more i can take. i know he feels bad about how he is acting, because he keeps saying sorry and he doesnt mean to push me away and be so distant. its just he is going through a lot of personal stuff...but i dunno think soon he is just gonna push me to far, im not going to accept an apology to come back...ahh i need to go and write and let some of this off my chest. thanx yall...keep posting with advice and comments or whatever...throw it up, peace!!:sad:
oh Sh*t he play for duke whas his name did he play this past year?
nah...he is playing in the fall or whenever it starts. he moved there though because he had to do some stuff before the season starts...but look out for him, i mean i must say my baby ::sigh:: is duummmb nice!! yall gonna see him on your TVs in a few years...but uh yeah im out
oh Sh*t he play for duke whas his name did he play this past year?
nah...he is playing in the fall or whenever it starts. he moved there though because he had to do some stuff before the season starts...but look out for him, i mean i must say my baby ::sigh:: is duummmb nice!! yall gonna see him on your TVs in a few years...but uh yeah im out
But when you say "ball" you mean, basketball football or baseball?
oh Sh*t he play for duke whas his name did he play this past year?
nah...he is playing in the fall or whenever it starts. he moved there though because he had to do some stuff before the season starts...but look out for him, i mean i must say my baby ::sigh:: is duummmb nice!! yall gonna see him on your TVs in a few years...but uh yeah im out
But when you say "ball" you mean, basketball football or baseball?
i presume basketball...
when have you heard ANYTHING about Duke football or baseball?
oh Sh*t he play for duke whas his name did he play this past year?
nah...he is playing in the fall or whenever it starts. he moved there though because he had to do some stuff before the season starts...but look out for him, i mean i must say my baby ::sigh:: is duummmb nice!! yall gonna see him on your TVs in a few years...but uh yeah im out
But when you say "ball" you mean, basketball football or baseball?
i presume basketball...
when have you heard ANYTHING about Duke football or baseball?
