I need advice! Okay I am a sophomore in college. My first year I went to one school I liked. Its not a well known school and very underrated ( its a good, small school, great people and extremely diverse; not dominately white or black). Well, I transfered to another school (happens to be domiantely white...but i dont know if that really matters...but I will say it is hard to fit in..) that I am now finding to be highly over-rated. Well, maybe the school is not over-rated but just not the school for me. Well, I dont want to go back to my old school for certain reasons but at the same time I'm not enjoying or liking the school I am not now. Its not a matter of the course work being hard or anything but I feel that I am not enjoying my college years and when I was in high school I was kind of limited as far as going out with friends etc. I often feel like giving up school thats how unhappy I am. So, I am thinking of applying to another university (NC A&T, where a couple of years ago I was accepted but decided to go to another school). The thing is I am eventually going to apply to dental school. How will the dental school admissions feel about a student go to three didfferent schools in 3 yrs in a row? Will they see this as a person who easily runs away from something she/he doesnt like? I dont know if its b/c the school I am attending is the wrong school for me or if there is a problem that lies within me and that I need to change myself and maybe I would like going to this school more. I say that because SO MANY STUDENTS WOULD ABSOLUTELY LOVE to go to the school I go to now! There are people who will reject the really good universities they have been accepted to just to go to community college in the city of the school I attend in hopes of transfering to my university. So, it makes me think that if people would love to be where I am, maybe I should be grateful for being able to go to the school that I do. I dont know if transfering to a new school will change things and make me happier. Maybe the school isnt the problem, maybe its me......
So, I would like opinions:
How do you guys think Admissions to Graduate/Professional would feel about going to 3 different schools?
Should I just suck it up and stay at a school that others would love to go to??
I'd really appreciate help and advice!!!!!!! ~Eris~
P.S. Feel free to tell me any info on NC A&T!!! Academics, Greeks Life..etc etc etc!!!!
I can't tell you what graduate admissions would say to that, because I just don't know. But I can tell you, that you should not feel like you have to change yourself to have a good time at school. That's not the purpose of college. You're supposed to be finding yourself, and in doing that finding out what makes you happy. If NCAT will make you happy, then do what makes you happy, but keep in mind that decisions like transferring schools aren't to be taken lightly. Make sure your heart is in it.
Thank You YoungPhenom for this advice! I know I must do what is in my heart but its so hard. I want to be happy I just dont know if for sure changing schools again will make me happy and I dont know for sure if NCAT will be the school for me. I'm scared of the risk I guess..in the end will it all be worth it to stay or leave; will it make a difference? I agree that I should be finding myself and enjoy my college years; I just dont want my future to be messed up b/c employers and admission commitees think i'm a punk b/c I keep changing school...I mean will they go for "Well, I changed schools b/c I had to follow my heart".
Anymore advice or opinions out there?
Thank You Once Again Girl!
~Eris~
You only asked two questions that I could help with. All grad school and employeers require is that you have an undergrad degree, they don't care how many transcripts you turn in.
Not saying flounder, cause what's lacking from you happiness may or may not be tied to a new school experience. You have to make that call.
Second, it doesn't matter how many people want to be in your shoes, it only matters that you want to. Whatever decision you make, take the fact that a bunch of people want to be there out of the decision-making criteria.
I think that you should remember that college is not just about the courses you take, but also the experiences you have and relationships you develop.Even though you're planning to go to med school, I would focus on getting a balanced education right now, if you don't you'll regret it for the rest of your life. There's no way for you to stay motivated if you don't have a life outside of the classroom.Which means finding the school which is the right fit for you. I don't think a recruiter could hold that against you... just make sure to keep your GPA in line, and get involved when you can (internships, leadership positions etc.)In high school, I strongly considered attending a PWC, probably University of Maryland, or Boston University. Looking back, if I had done so instead of attending Hampton, I would not have developed the interests that I have now... my life would be very different.There may be people who are only interested in "a name brand university" but remember, you are the one that must live with your choice, not someone who you hope to impress. You should do what is right for you.
I agree 100%.. do what you feel is right for you...I think you should enjoy these years of your life as much as possible..if not you will have that regret for the rest of your life.
Wow...thanks too all of you...this advice from all you seriuosly means so much to me.
I see an overall theme: if i submit to my unhappiness now, then i will be unhappy in the future. I didnt live high school to the fullest and I am not living college experiences to the fullest, but I should since I will never get these years back. I now I am not happy and it shows in my declining grades and how I just mope around all day feeling sorry for myself and pretending that I can make myself happy by thinking I should be grateful to be at a school others like or is "name brand" that i dont like. If I feel like giving up school at the university I attend now, then I wont do the best that I can or be the best person I can be academically, mentaly/emotionaly, or socially. I think that I needed reassurance from others that its okay for me to seek another school if it would make me happy and you all gave me that reassurance.
As far as admission commitees to Dental School, it does make sense that they would want to know that I did well with my grades and went out my way doing community services and taking leadership positions and taking advantage of what out there to offer instead of not wanting to take part in such things b/c I dont like where I am.
Thank You YoungPhenom, JpBray, NeoSoulBrotha and 1Life. You all have given me so much more of a better perspective. Thanks so much!
