well im at howard now and my first semster one of my professors said like being at an hbcu its the only time youre around so many positive black people and that we need to stop playing around and look for something permanent, ive never been exposed to that ideal set because im from a majority white high school and of course i mean like it seems whites have all the time in the world to date, but we have a ticking time ****...i kinda understand where he is coming from because as a black female there is even a shortage here of black males and then after graduation its gonna be rough finding a good mate, especially one thats cute and paid and has a personality lol, but at the same time i feel pressured and like i mean ive just started dating at 16 so marrying someone in college seems a bit much to me..im just wondering if any of yall have had similar situations..and if so do you feel the pressure, me personally im not trying to be a bridal rat in college aka, a person who just goes to college to get married lol
Honestly, not that I am trying to rush....but I wouldnt mind being engaged while im in college....I wouldnt get married until after I finished undergrad...But I really really want to be in love and spend my life with someone. I doubt I will find a guy that is looking forward to marriage the way I am...But I am definitely keeping my eyes and heart open, because I never know what guy I talk to could be my potential mate for the rest of my life.
I ain't rushin, but now that I have patiently waited, I got someone who I see being w/ for a long-term relationship... and that's the main thing i'm lookin for first is some stability, and consistency... now when that's established, and after i get out of school and graduate, then i'll look down the road... but i gotta see what level she's on, and whenever that happens, i'll take that step... but it's no rush though...
Like everyone else I ain't rushing. But I do want something permanent or close to it. I mean one you find love and its a good love why give it up. Why because you're young and you're not ready? Pretty soon that good thing won't be there and you will be wondering why...an you will be able to answer yourself. Nothing is guarenteed, but I would like to be in a loooong term committed relationship, where I dont' have to worry about me leaving or him leaving... just love each other and know that we are compatiable.
I found me a good strong black man thats gettin his education and is focused and is fine an d drive a BMW and got a good job and I aint lettin his a$$ go for nothin....... :x
I ain't rushin, but now that I have patiently waited, I got someone who I see being w/ for a long-term relationship... and that's the main thing i'm lookin for first is some stability, and consistency... now when that's established, and after i get out of school and graduate, then i'll look down the road... but i gotta see what level she's on, and whenever that happens, i'll take that step... but it's no rush though...
Cosigns (Sorry Dwayne it is late, and I can't see that good) :wink:
I ain't rushin, but now that I have patiently waited, I got someone who I see being w/ for a long-term relationship... and that's the main thing i'm lookin for first is some stability, and consistency... now when that's established, and after i get out of school and graduate, then i'll look down the road... but i gotta see what level she's on, and whenever that happens, i'll take that step... but it's no rush though...
Cosigns (Sorry Dwayne it is late, and I can't see that good) :wink:
I'm just gonna go ahead and let the cat out of the bag....Me and my new lady are at that "still getting to know each other" stage. She's silly as hell...im silly as hell. Both of us are into each other (a LOT), so we're just gonna take it from there and keep moving.
.....ya see how ive changed over the months lol
