Do you tend to stay away from virgins? It's really hard for me to find a guy that's doesn't run away when I say I'm a virgin. It's like they would rather risk sleeping with a girl who can get them a trip to the clinic than to be with a girl who wants to wait. And If so why are yall like that? Please explain to me why guys run away from girls who want to save it until there in love or marriage.
[INDENT]im still a virgin and most of the guys i talk to say that they would rather
[/INDENT]get all the play that they can get from the girls that give it up and not be in a serious committed relationship with them but that when they are ready to be in one they want a good girl/virgin, i dont understand why guys expect us/virgins to wait until they're done playing their games to come to us..
im still a virgin and most of the guys i talk to say that they would rather get all the play that they can get from the girls that give it up and not be in a serious committed relationship with them but that when they are ready to be in one they want a good girl/virgin, i dont understand why guys expect us/virgins to wait until they're done playing their games to come to us..
Great! Hold on to it!
Maturity level. When you deal with boys trying to sow their wild oats it's all about bragging rights and notches on belts or headboards. If they know that they can't have you it's a lost cause...unless they think of you as a challenge and try you anyways. That's when you have to hold fast to your beliefs.
The sad thing is b/c there are so many boys with this mindframe, you may to settle down with one of these guys in the future, once they mature and realize they are/they have headed down the wrong path.
One the one Hand I feel You it is hard out here for a Virgin in 2007 ESPECIALLY on a College Campus However .. maybe the best thing to do is just Fall back and let the RIGHT man who wont pressure you come find YOU !
Just chill..... if you dont concern yourself too much with with the idea that guys wont date virgins longterm it'll take alot of the stress and worry away !
Good job Sister Tamara. You hit it on the nail. To the young ladies who posted and are virgins, those guys aren't worth your body! If those men left you because you were a virgin they were not the right ones for you anyway. Consider that as protection from God. Sometimes God will close doors to protect you. Your body is precious and it should be reserved for your husband. Like Sister Tamara said, the guys that you lose your virginity to you might not ever hear from them again. So don't give something so precious away to someone who isn't worthy of it. If a man truly loves you, he will put a ring on your finger. Don't ever listen to the lies! If he loves you or cares about you, he will never compromise you! As I'm talking and giving you advice, this is advice for myself! I am not a virgin, but I am a born again virgin and I'm experiencing some of the same type of treatment from guys. They go ghost when you tell them you are holding off until marriage, but I realize that is God's love looking after me. He closes the doors on men that have the wrong motives! They weren't worthy of me anyway. God knows how important relationships are, and he will remove the wrong influences out of your life. My body is reserved for my husband and if a man loves me he will be willing to make that long term commitment to have me, by putting a ring on my finger! That is the true sign to find out if a man loves you or not! If not, you should be like NEXT! And move on to another man!
PRAISE THE LORD!!!
I wanted to add that we have to realize that there are some male virgins and I don't want them to feel left out. In the society that we live in now, a male virgin is like a purple diamond. You know they exist, but you rarely see them. I have much respect for male virgins. Don't get me wrong, I applaud female virgins, but for a male to be abstinate in a society that teaches them to "sow their royal oats" is worth getting excited about. We raise our daughters to save themselves for marriage, but who are they saving themselves for? We need to teach our young males that their bodies are precious too and they don't have to sleep with someone just because they are shaped just right. Or because their boy keep asking them "why they aint hit that?" Females can be just as persistant as males and can make a guy feel like they have to sleep with them. I just want everybody to know (male and female) you don't have to do anything that you don't want to do! If your worried about somebody talking about you or making fun of you than you're in for a rude awakening. People are going to talk about you if you don't do what they want. People are going to talk about you if you do what they want. Let's face it people are always going to be talking. There's a saying that I've put a twist on..."You can please some of the people sometimes, but you'll be a fool trying to please everybody all of the time...so don't be anybody's fool and please yourself all of the time!!!"
Hold on to it!
Maturity level. When you deal with boys trying to sow their wild oats it's all about bragging rights and notches on belts or headboards. If they know that they can't have you it's a lost cause...unless they think of you as a challenge and try you anyways. That's when you have to hold fast to your beliefs.
The sad thing is b/c there are so many boys with this mindframe, you may to settle down with one of these guys in the future, once they mature and realize they are/they have headed down the wrong path.
the one Hand I feel You it is hard out here for a Virgin in 2007 ESPECIALLY on a College Campus However .. maybe the best thing to do is just Fall back and let the RIGHT man who wont pressure you come find YOU !
Just chill..... if you dont concern yourself too much with with the idea that guys wont date virgins longterm it'll take alot of the stress and worry away !
