What if you like a dude but he had a Girl

sweet_honeybu wrote:

im in the same situation, or was...me and this dude are really cool friends like we just clicked in a tight friendship way and he let me know right off the bat that he had a girlfriend and that he was in love with her, i knew he was... but he was attracted to me, though we never did anything that would ruin their relationship, i made sure of that cuz im not that type, then they were broken up for a cool while and we kinda talked on a more personal level... but then summer (now) comes and he goes home, they get back together, cuz i knew he was still in love with her so i didnt let myself fall for him, but shes kinda effing up...were still friends cuz thats all that we can be, he knows i respect his girl because as the saying goes "if a girl isnt respecting your girlfriend, she's not respecting you"... if the time is right and meant to be for us...it will be, im not waiting on him because even though i may have some feelings for him, right now he's not the one for me...

ecepeda wrote:

I wanted to comment on this post yesterday and forgot. It seems as we have two young ladies with a similar problem. It seems to me that you are (or were) just hoping and wishing this girl messed up so you can get her man. You are actually helping by still kicking it with him. Go get your own! Forget about her effing up, that's their business. I never heard of that saying but you're still being disrespectful to him AND his woman. You are also contradicting yourself...either you two click or you don't. A woman who is willing to be friends with a man until he breaks up with his woman is a dangerous somethin. But remember THIS saying, what goes around comes around. And it's a mutha when it does. I share my thoughts with much love.