was on a website when I came across this topic.
Is marriage going to be a thing of the past and just living together will be the future?
It seems this will alway be a moot point.
Here's the story:
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[She Said] Is Marriage Just a Paper?
Posted by Kay Sea
Back in the day marriage was a standard, not an option. If a man knocked his girl up, they had a shot gun wedding, continued to have children and more than likely stayed together out of obligation. Today, however, couples have found a loophole to attain all the attachments of marriage without the title.
Here's a very common scenario that is often debated among today's young couples and marriage vets of yesteryear: A man and a woman have been shacking up for the past three years or so, and everything is close to perfect. The issue of marriage falls upon them and they figure, why not? We've been together forever now so what difference would it make, we might as well. They take the plunge, and a short year later they divorce. The burning question remains, what is it about that piece of paper called a marriage license turns the dynamics of a relationship up-side-down? Young folks today obviously recognize that it's much easier to commence a marriage than it is to void it, so what's the point?
As there is nothing new under the sun, the same problems that plagued marriages then could destroy any union today. What has changed is the necessity of nuptials all together. Nowadays a lot of women feel that if maintaining a relationship without the legal title is what it takes keep the love alive, then so be it, because a paper doesn't determine the love, longevity and livelihood of a marriage.
Livesteez sat down and asked a group of women: Is marriage overrated? Let us know what you think.
Honestly, the only reason why I would get married is for insurance purposes. Like, if my guy had a life insurance policy and I'm having his children and playing house for years, then yea. If he croaks, I'm gonna need to maintain the security of my homelife for my children. I know it sounds terrible, but don't forget marriage is a business transaction and if my guy has no assets, then marriage is pointless and we could continue to love each other while shacking up. - Nicolette, 29, Attorney
Marriage to me is just one of those things that seems less and less tangible as I get older. You know when you are younger you think I graduate from high school, go to college, find my husband in college and marry him right after graduation and start a family, and live happily ever, but I think somewhere along the way that Disney, cherry-coated, “in a perfect world” fantasy wears off after life starts to get real. You grow up and realize that everything that you thought life was about just isn’t simply achieved…
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I think marriage is something sacred. It's a bond that you have God's blessing to share your heart, body, soul, mind, pretty much everything with this person you love. God made us to love him and for him to bless a marriage is important.
Then here we go with people my age running around and forgetting about God in their hearts and forget what Marriage is supposed to be about. Unity. One Soul and Two Bodies.
PRAISE THE LORD!!!
Marriage is not over-rated...actually it's UNDER-rated!!! The importance of marriage is not generally being passed on. It's not being shown as an example of how our lives are suppose to be. Marriage is not being taken serious and it's not being portrayed seriously. In the neighborhood where I grew up, my parents were the only ones that were married and my dad didn't even live with us. Everyone that I knew that got married ended up seperating or getting a divorce because one of them cheated. I use to think that there wasn't any reason to get married, because they never last anyway. But once I got saved and saw true examples of positive marriages, I understood what marriage was really about. I realized that if someone doesn't know what love is than they can't show it to you. If someone doesn't love themselves than they can't love you. Marriage is a great thing when it is done right and in the will of God!!!
Wow, thank you everyone for the comments. I just wanted to post this because I think it is a serious topic that needed to be addressed.
I am a witness of when marriages go good for better or worse, and when they go wrong (cheating, etc).
Please keep the comments coming
No. It can be a beautiful thing. I think wedding shows are overrated though. In fact, with all of them I see on a regular basis, I now KNOW that if I get married, I will be doing it in a courthouse. The wedding ceremony is nice and has a lot of historical background, from the dress to the bouquet, but, I was never a girl to daydream about it.
I always thought it cost more to get married than to bury a person...otherwise, too dayum much.
I think Marriage is worth it. It’s a great thing to share your life with someone that compliments you spiritually, mentally, physically, and emotionally. Life is about making memories and spending time with the people you love.
Marriage is definitely not overrated. So many people get married for the wrong reasons and then wonder why there are such high divorce rates. If you are not truly willing to love and stick with that person "for better or worse, til death do us part" then you shouldnt be gettin married.
People also look read too much into movies and television shows which always seem to portray marriage in such a negative light and they then assume that once you get married , you're going to be miserable
