u know what? I used to look in disgust at females that stuck with no good dudes. Thought it was pure stupidity. But honestly, some things are soooo much easier to say than to actually do. Your heart/emotions can make u do some crazy things. It's like...even when u know that u know that u KNOW that sumthin is bad for u, sumthin just keeps pullin u to the very thing that can hurt u. And u can tell yourself a million times that's u should move on, that he's no good, that u could do sooo much better, but it's your HEART...sumthin in there won't allow u to let go. Yeah...love definately ****
I've never been in any of those situations that u listed up above. And honestly, my first reaction is to say "oh HELL NAW! I would never take that ish!". But sometimes u just can't say what u would do until you're in the situation yourself.
Sometimes you gotta let dude go. You have to temporarily remove all emotions and look at things as tho' you're someone else....and think.."is she really doing the right thing?"
Thats why I dont get attached to guys...I dont got time to be depressed, crying, chasin after some loser. If I know upfront what Im dealing with then he cant hurt me, cause I already knew what to expect. I mean my mentality has allowed me to not trust no guys easily, and because of it i havent been in love before, because the thought of being vulnerable and attached scares me. DO I wanna be madly in love and be with someone great...OF COURSE...but I have yet to find " him. " I always say **** aint sh*t, cause the most of the ones I deal with aint sh*t, but I do know some really good ones exist out there...I just have yet to find him.
Real talk....I accept the fact that not everyone I date is gonne be "the one..."
man i totally understand where you are coming from...before i got with my current boyfriend i use to be w/ this dude that i knew i couldn't trust but i still stuck w/ him...it took me moving away to college 500 miles away to realize that he wasn't worth Sh*t....love will make you do some crazy Sh*t....your mind may tell you one thing, but your body will do another...
i wish all the women out there good luck in finding a good man, there are not many out there, but don't stick for someone who is below your level, **** you, etc...it's better to be by yourself then with a no good man...
imma cosign with ma girls................
i gotta CONCUR with ashley tho...................
cuz men are very confused species, either way u gonna get called stupid for leaving him because he was a good man that made a mistake and the next chick wouldna let him go, or u stupid cuz u stay and forgive him cuz he a dog......................
im EXTREMELY forgiving cuz i know that men will stray and all i gotta do is get in that **** ONE time and he'll str8en right up................
kenya kno what I'm talkinbout!!!!!!
It took my ex getting a one night stand pregnant for me to finally let go of his ****. He had cheated on me plenty of times...by the end of the relationship we both had new people in our lives and just needed that final cuss out to tie up loss ends. I did pretty well if I must say so myself 8) I'm not proud that I hung with a cheater but I attributed that to growing up (we had been together from 10th grade through freshman year of college). I guess when you are with someone for that long you figure some stuff can be overlooked. I would hope that I have grown to not allow that to occur again...and I definitely hope that I am a much stronger person than to allow someone to emotionally or physically abuse me.
imma cosign with ma girls................
i gotta CONCUR with ashley tho...................
cuz men are very confused species, either way u gonna get called stupid for leaving him because he was a good man that made a mistake and the next chick wouldna let him go, or u stupid cuz u stay and forgive him cuz he a dog......................
im EXTREMELY forgiving cuz i know that men will stray and all i gotta do is get in that **** ONE time and he'll str8en right up................
kenya kno what I'm talkinbout!!!!!!
i think it depend on how long the relationship lasted how attached you get. and everybody else is right - it is easier said than done. Me and my ex have been broken up for a year and i'm still in love. but we were together for 2 years and went through so much stuff in 2 years than most people go through in 5 years. and why does it have to be that he was a no good nig? the dude doesnt have to cheat on u or be an asshole in every situation. me and my ex never had any problems like he was abusive or cheated on me - but we did have memories. we got so many good memories and he taught me so much that i dont want to go through those memories with anybody but him. when u break up with someone you start to reminise about him/her everytime you hear a song that ALWAYS deals with your situation or reminds you of him/her. u can tell yourself ova and ova , " this is it, i'm over him and i can start over". but when you actually try to start ova - that pep talk that u gave urself goes right out the window.
u know what? I used to look in disgust at females that stuck with no good dudes. Thought it was pure stupidity. But honestly, some things are soooo much easier to say than to actually do. Your heart/emotions can make u do some crazy things. It's like...even when u know that u know that u KNOW that sumthin is bad for u, sumthin just keeps pullin u to the very thing that can hurt u. And u can tell yourself a million times that's u should move on, that he's no good, that u could do sooo much better, but it's your HEART...sumthin in there won't allow u to let go. Yeah...love definately ****
DAMN GIRL!!!you took the words right out of my mouth and i put that on everything. man i just could not understand a female that was with a dude that was no treating her good, but its just like you said. Sometimes stuff isnt as easy as it sounds. its like one of those magic 8 balls i used to have when i was a kid. if i didnt get the answer that i wanted i would just shake that Sh*t up a thousand times until the answer i wanted came back. sometimes thats how it can be in a relationship where u know ur not getting wat u should be, but instead of accepting that, you just want to keep trying and see if u ever will. Aint that a B*tch.
i was one of those girls......i really did let my heart take over and not listen to my head.....i was w/ dude for almost a year thinkin somethin might change and i thought i was in love until finally i just had enough and it was hard as hell when i ended it cuz i kept thinkin i wanted to get back together w/ him but then i met the bf i have now and ive never looked back since and im glad i took that step
I've never been in any of those situations that u listed up above. And honestly, my first reaction is to say "oh HELL NAW! I would never take that ish!". But sometimes u just can't say what u would do until you're in the situation yourself.
