WHATS UP LADIES, I HAVE SOME QUESTIONS ABOUT HOW DO YOU ALL WANT TO BE TREATED OR APPROACHED. IM NOT TALKIN ABOUT GAME OR NOTHIN BUT JUST YOU ALL POINT OF VIEW.
1. WHATS THE DEAL WITH THE WANTING THE **** OR THE DUDE THAT WONT DUE RIGHT BY YOU. YOU COULD HAVE A BF AND HE COULD CHEAT/LIE/OR EVERY ABUSE(DONT CONDONE IT). AND SOME(NOT ALL) WILL INSTANLY SAY WELL HE LOVE ME OR I SHOULD GIVE ME ANOTHER CHANCE. OR YOU WILL LEAVE THAT ONE AND JUST GO STRAIGHT BACK INTO THE SAME KIND OR RELATIONSHIP. THIS BOTHERS ME BECAUSE A GOOD MAN WILL COME AND THE FIRST THING YOU WILL DO IS KEEP HIM AS A GOOD FRIEND OR HE IS NOT MY TYPE, BUT THIER TYPE IS THE KIND THAT LIE AND CHEAT ON YOU. SO WHAT ARE YOUR VIEWS ON GIRLS WANTING THE BAD MEN.
2. I HAVE HEARD COUNTLESS FEMALES SAY THEY ARE GETTING TIRED OF A DUDE TRYIN TO GET THEIR NUMBER AND SAYIN "SHORTY", "MA","REDBONE"...ETC SO WHATS YOUR IDEA WAY FOR A DUDE TO APPROACH YOU..... BUT WHEN A DUDE COMES UP TO YOU AND SPEAKS POLITE AND MANNERFUL GIRLS THINK HE A LAME OR ACTS WHITE LOL, SO HOW WHAT ARE SOME THINGS THAT YALL LIKE OR DISLIKE.
OH YEA THESE ACCOUNTS ARE NOT PERSONAL JUST SOMETHING THAT SEEN AROUND AND ALWAYS WANTED TO KNOW THE DEAL......
I feel that I am a smart respectable woman and I want to be treated like one. I want a guy to approach me in a respectful manner and also he should approach me like he is about something. I know I do not respect a guy that trying to holla at me by saying hey girl can I get your number. Why would I want to give a guy my number after he has approached me like that, I feel that I respect myself and if you respect me as a women I will definately respect you. If a guy wants to approach me he needs to come at me in the most real way possible. Like if you see a girl your interested in at least say, hey how you doing, and if that female responds and seems interested than you strike up a nice conversation with her. This is the mature way to do things. I feel like all them other lines are not my cup of tea.
To answer question one I do not want a **** never did. I never have been one to be interested in that type. I am a decent girl and I want to be with someone that will reflect me and my character. Like I said every women is different and we want different things.
I like a guy who is confident, I like for him to approach me respectfully.
It's not about him being a **** its more about protection. We as women want a man who can protect us and some one who makes us feel safe, he doesn't have to be a ****, selling ****, with his pants sagging. Like if a situation gets out of control he can handle it. When you approach me if your interested in me don't just tell me, show me. Make me understand why I should get to know you, make me want to get to know you.
PRAISE THE LORD!!!
Straight thugging is played out, at least to me. There are females that thinks a **** is the best thing that happened to them. I'm going to tell you something that might make a lot of things clear to you. Some females have low self-esteem and any attention is better than no attention. These thuggish-ruggish males are a hot item to some females so they will do whatever to keep them just so another female wont have them. Or they will share them, because they believe that no matter what they are the #1 girl. Usually, he's playing both of them. You'll never be able to understand because most females don't understand themselves why they are with this type of guy. That's why they use the word "love", because they don't know what else to call it.
I personally, don't like being approached with a guy saying hey shorty, ms. thang, hey yo, ay baby, ay sweetheart, or things of that matter. I would appreciate it if a man approach me he does it as a gentleman would. He would say excuse me ms., excuse me ms. lady, excuse me ma'am, or something like that. He would say excuse me first because that's using manners. He wouldn't be shouting at me to get my attention. I don't care for those loud guys, (hey, yo, ay, yo-yo, ay-yo, or psst-hey) Then he would use respectful names to call me. He wouldn't talk to me as if I already was his girl. Does that make sense to you?
By the way, I don't give my number out. But I would at least listen or maybe even have a conversation if he approached me right.
I've been reading some of these posts, but:
To the ladies who were/ want to be with thugs: Why do some of you feel you need a **** to be protected? What happened to protecting yourself? Some of these so-called "thugs" pull this "I-ain't scared-of-nothing-and-nobody" act and when a situation gets heavy, they bolt out like they got the runs.
Although not all nice guys are "lame", as some would put it, there are some you may want look out for.
1. LOL! I find your question interesting, because honestly, I had found myself falling for this guy who is st8 up trifling. He in every way tries to embody the whole "**** life" thing, and has absolutely no respect for woman. But you know what, that little phase I went through while being sprung over him was my phase of naive'ness, and insecurity. I felt that whole thing about feeling secure with him, but I didn't understand that having security with a man is not about their muscles or how quick they'll try to cap someone off of ignorance, its when that person will do everything in their power to protect you from evil, hurt, or whatever perils you go through.
2. All the gimicks just irritate the hell outta me. I just want someone to come up to me, being themselves, without the rehearsed lines, whether they sound "intelligent" or not. Saying "hello" and introducing yourself without sounding rehearsed is a way that will get my attention.
I want the way I am treated to be a reflection of how I treat the person I am with. I want to be cared for and loved, being with a person who genuinely has my best interest at heart. I want someone to be honest and upfront with me about everything.
Well honestly im not even going to front but yes i have dealt with some of what you call thugs (drug dealers) but they treated me very well the only flaw basically was the fact of their doings selling...... but that along fogs up the future in the relationship because of the issue of time and the what ifs that are involved and the over protectiveness that comes in the package along with the fact that hes a dealer he knows majority of the people in the neighborhood leaving all eyes on you causing conflict......**** back to the question at hand how would i like to be treated....there is a complex answer for this unique girl:
I want to be treated like a princess but not all the time because it gets jaded
i want to be treated as one of your best friends where u are yourself around me but at the same time treated as your heart held dear to you and a precious place in your entity
i want to be treated like a human being not given restrictions as a child nor boundaries as a dog
i want you to be there for me when i need you not only in bad times but in good times
i want to be treated with respect and with great recognition of what i stand for and the potential i have and not to be looked down upon
i want to be treated as your equal not above nor below you but as u
i want to be treated like you treat yourself which is hopefully EXCELLENTLY
and there is so much more but u get the trail im going
I just wanna reply to the comment about putting the good man in the "friend zone". This situation has come up several times in my life. Some I put in the friend zone, others I didn't. What the "friend zone" guys must understand is that we, girls also have standards just like guys and we shouldn't have to settle for just any guy because he's considered "good". Just because he's a good guy, doesn't mean he's the good guy for the particular girl he's pursuing. If I put a guy in the "friend zone", I'm just letting him know that I really like the person he is, and I'd rather have him in my life as a friend than not at all.
1- I have dated "thugs" and "nice guys". The thugs that I dated do make me feel protected, and are fun to be with, but I know that they are only temporary. The problem arises when females fail to see that. The reason that some of us keep the "nice guys" as good firends is because we blame ourselves for the problems in our previous relationships, and don't want the same thing to happen with the nice guy. Another reason is that we realize that bf/gf relationships are only temporary, but friendships last forever, and they want their relationship with the nice guy to last forever.
I feel ya on thatWhen you get married you want to marry you best friendOne thing thoughHaving a dude in your best friend stage is not the one women usually marries
