Ladies: Why do ya want dudes who are older. Not like 1 yo 2 years but like 5 or more? I mean like when ya were 14 and 15 ya thought havin a boyfriend over 20 was cool. Ya do realize that dude was probably a loser in the eyes of his peers. Oh yea if your brother who was 20 was messin with a 15 or 16 year old what would u think?
Fellas: Why the fukk would ya mess wit a young **** chick? Im talkin bout 14 and 15? Cuz I mean these young **** girls out in this world wouldnt be tryin to get this old head dudes if the dudes wasnt givin em play. If you lil 15 year old sister was messin wit a 20 year old dude what would u think?
Ladies: Why do ya want dudes who are older. Not like 1 yo 2 years but like 5 or more? I mean like when ya were 14 and 15 ya thought havin a boyfriend over 20 was cool. Ya do realize that dude was probably a loser in the eyes of his peers. Oh yea if your brother who was 20 was messin with a 15 or 16 year old what would u think?
Fellas: Why the fukk would ya mess wit a young **** chick? Im talkin bout 14 and 15? Cuz I mean these young **** girls out in this world wouldnt be tryin to get this old head dudes if the dudes wasnt givin em play. If you lil 15 year old sister was messin wit a 20 year old dude what would u think?
the females are looking for a daddy...
the dudes are desperate and can't egt n e body thier own age...
which i don't get...it's not that hard to manipulate a woman between the ages of 18 and 25...from what i've observed in this world, they're just like 14 year old chicks except they know a few more words...you know speak articulate n sh!t...(tasia)
umm, first off when i am dating a older guy, i am not looking for a daddy........i believe i already have one.
secondly, what you observe (which is probably not even 1% of the world) may not be the actual reality. it's more of your perception which is probably f*cked up anyway....
Preach!!!
i disagree...
if a dude is hollering at 16 18 year old he's desperate and can't get n e body his own age...and the chicks are..ahem swept off thier feet because they're looking for a daddy, or let me add...their dad didn't set a good example for em...>>
Point blank its wrong...stop trying to justify it...no way a 13 year old is on the same level as a 20 year old....
As grown as YOU think u are and as Mature as YOU think u r...guess what...ur the only person who feels that way... :arrow:
Better go sit ya 5th grade **** down...
How the hell do that sound...this **** in college...and u in the 5th grade...thats just sick
I don't agree with older men with a minor, but once you are 18 it's your choice as to who you want to be with. Everyone thinks the younger girls can be manipulated, she's looking for a father, he wants to make himself feel better, she's a gold digger, and he is trying to stay young. Yes some of this does happen. However, there are some of us who fit with our mate b/c of maturity,chemistry, and being open minded. To me it's only 3 ppl who have to be comfortable with the relationship God and the 2 adults.
Point blank its wrong...stop trying to justify it...no way a 13 year old is on the same level as a 20 year old....
As grown as YOU think u are and as Mature as YOU think u r...guess what...ur the only person who feels that way... :arrow:
Better go sit ya 5th grade **** down...
How the hell do that sound...this N*gga in college...and u in the 5th grade...thats just sick
well now, the 5th grade & college would be pushin' it just a bit.....i was speaking more of say a 9th grader & a freshman or sophomore in college....
like i said, that wouldn't be me or anyone in my family (i.e., my brother or any of my future children) if i could help it....but i'm just speaking how it might happen....
and i'm sorry, tiph - definitely gotta disagree with u on what u said about the level of maturity of people at that age.....true, there are MANY girls at that age and around it who are very immature mentally....but you would be surprised - there are some out there who are waaaaay beyond their years....
there are even some guys that age who are waaaaay beyond their years.....not many, lol...but some....
i mean, 'cause everyone has lived a different type of life - had various different experiences....learned different lessons....some people were forced to psychologically "grow up" a WHOLE lot faster than others....whether they wanted to or didn't.....or some might've been exposed to a different level of education throughout their lives....
so you just never know....
this also sort of goes into the argument about what is the appropriate minimum cut-off age for people going to prison from having committed crimes, namely ****....
i know that every state has its own law regarding that, and i'm not sure what all or even most of 'em are....but the common argument is that contrary to popular belief, a say 12-year-old or 13-year-old boy does know the difference between right and wrong.....he did know what he was doing when he did whatever wrong he did....he was just as aware as perhaps a 21-year-old....about the magnitude of his crime....or even almost aware....
in the society of today, people too often give that younger generation too little credit.....contrary to popular belief, they are not ALL as naive, "innocent," disconnected, impressionable, and influential as most of us have come to believe....
physically...mentally...and even emotionally....some of these lil' kids are even more "grown" than "grown folk" (the 25+ crowd)....
and lol, i should probably stop tryna defend that side 'cause i'm probably assuring the probability of my future daughter going out with some dude who's twice her age...at a young age :?....but like i said, tho, just playin' "devil's advocate" (<---& i hate that label :x...but...ya'll know what i mean)....anywayz tho, and here is where it ends :arrow:
You can't just sit and make generalizations about every kind of relationship that is like that. Not every women who dates an older man is looking for a man to be her daddy, and not every older man who dates a younger woman is looking for somebody to control. My parents are 11 yrs a part and I know for a fact that my mom wasn't in search of a father figure, and that my dad wasn't some random perv. My parents have been married for the past 30 yrs and they have one of the best relationships I know of. So not everybody who is in a relationship with a person significantly older or younger than them has an alterior motive, even though some do. Some people see age as just a number and are actually attracted they person because of their personality and attraction to that person
You can't just sit and make generalizations about every kind of relationship that is like that. Not every women who dates an older man is looking for a man to be her daddy, and not every older man who dates a younger woman is looking for somebody to control. My parents are 11 yrs a part and I know for a fact that my mom wasn't in search of a father figure, and that my dad wasn't some random perv. My parents have been married for the past 30 yrs and they have one of the best relationships I know of. So not everybody who is in a relationship with a person significantly older or younger than them has an alterior motive, even though some do. Some people see age as just a number and are actually attracted they person because of their personality and attraction to that person
Ladies: Why do ya want dudes who are older. Not like 1 yo 2 years but like 5 or more? I mean like when ya were 14 and 15 ya thought havin a boyfriend over 20 was cool. Ya do realize that dude was probably a loser in the eyes of his peers. Oh yea if your brother who was 20 was messin with a 15 or 16 year old what would u think?
Fellas: Why the fukk would ya mess wit a young **** chick? Im talkin bout 14 and 15? Cuz I mean these young **** girls out in this world wouldnt be tryin to get this old head dudes if the dudes wasnt givin em play. If you lil 15 year old sister was messin wit a 20 year old dude what would u think?
for gurls: goin out wit a guy two or three years older den is ok cus its better den dem immature-**** boyz ur age, but if dude is like five years older and up den dats not cute at all....i mean u may its cute dat u got a man while your friends still are runnin around wit lil boyz, but how does dat look for da guy? why he cant get a gurl closer to his age? dont say cus a 14 year old act more mature den a 22 year old, i mean im pretty sure dat u'll frown upon an 18 year old man messin wit a 12 year old lil gurl, so wats da difference between dat and a 24 year old man messin wit a 16 year old....
now sometimes ****happens.....u could be a 13 year old freshmen in high school and going out wit a 18 or 19 year old senior in high school...dat still aint cute at all to me but da point is dat sometimes u are placed in situations...
for guys: u prolly go out wit younger gurls cus gurls ur age are not goin out wit u....dey are prolly wit an older man...so your prolly lookin for gurlz dat r lookin for u, and these gurls jus happen to be a lil younger....so dats ok, but if da gurls dat u r kickin it are in da same grade wit ur lil sister den u have a problem, u are only goin after gurls dat u know will ay yes, cus gurlz your age or a lil bit younger are sayin no....u need to check yourself.....
once again, ****happens.....u could be a 22 year old male whos talking to an attractive young woman who acts, dresses, and looks very mature, she has a job, she drives her own car and she is a student....too bad u find out dat shes a student taking eleventh grade english....now although she was still in elementary school when u were in high school, will a 6 year age gap stop you from pursuin a beautiful and intellectual young lady with who just happens to be sweet sixteen, there mite be a problem when yall try to hit dem clubs up, but wat if yall aint into clubbing?....maybe age indeed aint nothin but a number...
well however u may feel about age differences and dating, da truth is dat as u grow older the age gap grows less and less important....i mean when u were in elementary school, a third grader goin out wit a first grader was unheard of, but in high school no one really turns their head at a freshman goin out wit a junior....
Okay, I haven't read everyone's responses to this thread, nor do I plan to, but I agree with Rod's inital post. I've often wondered about this myself. I personally have no plans on dating someone who is 28 or so and I'm almost 22. I know that I'm mature and alla that good stuff but some of these age gaps are just ridiculous. My homegirl is presently dating a 28 yr old and it's just so strange to me. He acts like the almost 30 yr old man that he is, but as grown and whatnot that she thinks she is, they just do not match. It's like she puts on a front when she's around him but in reality she's still a wild 22 yr old that likes to go out and get messed up every weekend. The same goes with 15 yr olds with 20 yr old boyfriends. I mean really, WHAT do ya'll have in common or are you just too grown for your britches?
I have always seen it this way, dudes that are 20 or so and still looking for dates in high school are thinking with their "other head" and need to grow the hell up and get someone their own age. As a sophomore in college, WHAT would make you be in any situation where you could end up hooking up with someone 5 yrs younger than you? SOMEONE, please help me understand this. I focus more on males here because there aren't THAT many females, that I know of, that would even consider dating a guy that is 2 yrs younger than them, more or less 5.
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