I Got An Attitude About The...2005-06 Tuition Bill...Help!

59 replies · 12278 views · Started by College Mom · Jun 2005

Sigh... Just opened the mail. I got the the bill for my sons HBCU for the fall of 05 and the Spring of 06... I just ain't feelin it :-( Partna's grades were decent. He still been a handful this Summer but it just don't feel like it felt this time last year when he was going to be a Freshman. I am lookin at upwards of 25K for the tuition and fees...We put him in a spankin brand new apartment so that's another 6K. We gotta do about 4 or 5 round trip air fares...August, Thanksgiving, Christmas, Spring Break and Homecoming for me and the hubby... His spending money runs about 400 hundred a month which is another 4K...He don't got no new clothes or shoes so Im mo have to get him sumthin...Books and supplies is gonna be about 600 hundred cause he in the B school...We gotta ship all his stuff back which is another 300 hundred bucks...Partna wants us to ship his car as he is gonna get the B-mer in August...I gotta help him set up his apartment...This is the short list when I think of some other expenses for him... So, we talkin about...40K... Son will bring aproximately 3K to the table after his Summer work is done. We got it but, I just ain't motivated to break him off like this but, I ain't gonna fake on him...HELP.... Give me some inspiration, motivation...fo real! NO HATIN...thanks!

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· Jun 2005

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Bear... You win...You got me. You got me when I was down and since it is your style I'll even let you get me while you clown... Have at it...do your thing...show um what ya workin wit!

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· Jun 2005

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Senior Guest wrote:
When writing or speaking to a group, you have to know your target audience. I think a lot of the negative feedback could have been avoided by recognizing that these are young people from various backgrounds. Many have loans and work to help defray the cost of education. Why speak to them about Navi's and Bmers if you don't know if all of the audience can relate? That's why they accuse you of bragging. Save all the name dropping for your peers. Maybe after a Facet meeting, Links, or J&J activity. It would be perfectly ok to discuss financial planning, your latest St John's outfit and summer in the Hamptons or the Vineyard . Not here.

Sir, what you are saying that what she says is making us feel bad because many of us are from various economical backgrounds.. yes i realize that, but i wouldn't put my financial sitution on the internet, and a message board at that. So please do not say that we are accusing her of bragging because we don't have something. say shes bragging because no one does that kind of stuff. and i have had a summer in Martha's Vineyard, but thats no-one's bussiness. And if College mom had read my statement i said that if it was nothing other than asking for pure advice i apologize and wish her sucess in her son's finances..

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Thoroughly_Confused · Jun 2005

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WileECoyote06 wrote:
College Mom, Are you truly providing what your son needs by giving him a BMW, an apartment as a sophomore, and $400 a month spending money? Although your family appears to be well off, it doesn't mean that you're providing a good example for him. College is supposed to build character, it's about survival, networking and learning from your mistakes. Right now, you've made your son appear a bit spoiled and you're setting him and your household up for a rude awakening, when his sense of entitlement comes into play. I'm older than many on this board, and I am not a parent, but I have taught both high school and college level students. You should make the apartment, car, and other things something he should work hard to get. I hope I can lavish some of those things on my son when he comes of age, but he won't get Sh*t unless the grades are tight and our relationship is tight. And he still won't get a Beemer. Maybe after graduation, but until then it's Honda or Toyota living. Take it however you want to. . .

I agree with him. It is understandable that you would want your son to have a college education so that part is not debateable. The other expeneses is where I see the problem. Hell the way he been actin at home, do you think that iiit will be any better if he is across the coutry in an apartment with no kind of supervision. I say the dorms on campus work just fine, as does a bike. Now a car (BMW at that) + an apartment mixed with someone who blatantly disrepects ur rules does not make a good combination especially when he is across the country. I think there should be ore of a focus on what is needed at this point rather than what is wanted. When he acts how you as his parents want him to act, thas when he should be worried about receiving what he wants. As far as the rest of the thread I will not touch it, because alot of people come on here and ask for advice.