Sigh...
Just opened the mail. I got the the bill for my sons HBCU for the fall of 05 and the Spring of 06...
I just ain't feelin it :-(
Partna's grades were decent. He still been a handful this Summer but it just don't feel like it felt this time last year when he was going to be a Freshman.
I am lookin at upwards of 25K for the tuition and fees...We put him in a spankin brand new apartment so that's another 6K. We gotta do about 4 or 5 round trip air fares...August, Thanksgiving, Christmas, Spring Break and Homecoming for me and the hubby... His spending money runs about 400 hundred a month which is another 4K...He don't got no new clothes or shoes so Im mo have to get him sumthin...Books and supplies is gonna be about 600 hundred cause he in the B school...We gotta ship all his stuff back which is another 300 hundred bucks...Partna wants us to ship his car as he is gonna get the B-mer in August...I gotta help him set up his apartment...This is the short list when I think of some other expenses for him...
So, we talkin about...40K... Son will bring aproximately 3K to the table after his Summer work is done.
We got it but, I just ain't motivated to break him off like this but, I ain't gonna fake on him...HELP....
Give me some inspiration, motivation...fo real! NO HATIN...thanks!
Thoroughly Confused...
Excellent perspective. Thank you!
Aggie Warrior & Cafe...
Hmmm, yall one weak **** tag team. I have had to speak to the both, at the same time before...not cute. Not cute at all.
What's Getting Old:
YOU. The two of you and sometimes one of you doing NOTHIN but signifying. Gee Whiz... TRY and go find something constructive to do. Stop trying to DO me. I AM VERY VERY BORED WITH YA!
You know what's getting old...
YOU trying to tell me how to POST, ACT and SPEAK about MY son. That's done got old. Who died and left you in charge of all things "College Mom" on the internet?
Back up! Get off me! Jump on some of these other posters on hbcuconnect who will tear you from limb to limb. SHOO...go play with someone your own age...Use your advice to me...Get with yo real world peeps...go on now skat!
For sure NO one in the real world that you know so much about is beyond tired of your entertaining azzes... YAWN!
Your constant attacks on my mentality...Now THATS CRAZY. You practice "psychology" in cyberspace...yet you call me unstable?
You Know What's Getting Old:
You bein bout as dumb as a brick. READ Cafe READ. You will learn what the point of this or any internet thread is...maybe. You kinda thick up stairs.
YOU DONT HAVE TO POST ON ALL OF MY THREADS...OK???? Get your own light. Go ahead...start your own threads...ask your own internet questions...Oh, I forgot the internet is simply NOT for advice seeking to have you tell it... Leave my "braggin", advice seekin, uncouth **** alone..OK?
Aggie:
You don't accept my apology...your choice. Ain't nobody gonna do more in your direction on this matter. Karma Aggie...Karma. Do what you gotta do. Cafe sure got you by the...
You, Cafe and the Tag-along ,King J, have zero idea the number of PM's I get as relates to the attacks from you. You think the laughs on me...think again. You are SO in the dark...
Skip my post...forget that I exist. Do whatever brain surgery that you were doing before I came on the scene.
CLICK...That's me turning out the light,
SLAM... That's me shutting the door and
FLIP...That's me giving you three the eternal hand because I will keep posting
BUT...I will not ever post back to any of you.
Now...go ahead pick around some other posts...like the late night scavangers that you are...
This Thread is DONE as for my participation.
*note* Didn't read anything except the initial post (just yet at least).
...I don't know College Mom. I've been pretty quiet about everything up until now but something doesn't seem right....
Now... i'm not saying that what u tell us isn't true or that i don't believe you but the reason something doesn't seem right is because i'm beginning to realize that you are extremely invested, maybe a lil TOO invested in your son's life.
According to everything that you've written (that i've read) he's an extremely blessed individual and i wonder if all of this involvment in his life will end up hindering him in the long run. I have a FULL ride down here at Morehouse and still don't have the pleasure of half the things he can experience money wise.
No 4-5 trips for me... summer break-winter break thats it.
No 400 dollar a month allowance... Thats what summer jobs since the age of 13 were for (and yes it was legal for those questioning the age i started working lol)
No new clothes from mamadukes... gotta buy them myself. I'm still rocking the same two (now worn out) pair of adidas from late Sophmore year... i'm a senior now.
Shippin is all on me as well... and i don't know how he's doing it but $300... damn thats alotta money to be shippin stuff. He needs to find a friend and leave sh*t in somebodies basement lol.
Dude has a "B-mer"... shyeeeeet all i have is my 2 feet and like i said before i choose not to buy a new pair of kicks to aid my main mode of transportation lol
Anyway... i don't know how old dude is but he has it good apparently. I'm not tryin to tell you how to raise ya son but you give the impression that dude is spoiled and is gonna end up struggling in the future. He needs to pick up some of that slack for himself. As far as i'm concerned u need to stop worrying bout the school and focus on him... (*correction* focus less on him... he gets way too much attention).
Whether it be his endeavors in "pledging" or whatever. You need to let dude loose from the nest. Fiscally, he might be alright in the future... but i know cats like me have a hard time respecting a dude who can't stand on his own two feet or have enough respect to claim his manhood and do all of the above on his own. He's in college and its botu that time he learns that.
I know u're prolly gonna say "he does" etc etc etc... but your post lead me and i'm sure others to believe otherwise... Not hatin at all, but something doesn't seem right...
*k... on to read what everybody else wrote in this thread... forgive me if i was beign redundant.*
Sigh...
Just opened the mail. I got the the bill for my sons HBCU for the fall of 05 and the Spring of 06...
I just ain't feelin it :-(
Partna's grades were decent. He still been a handful this Summer but it just don't feel like it felt this time last year when he was going to be a Freshman.
I am lookin at upwards of 25K for the tuition and fees...We put him in a spankin brand new apartment so that's another 6K. We gotta do about 4 or 5 round trip air fares...August, Thanksgiving, Christmas, Spring Break and Homecoming for me and the hubby... His spending money runs about 400 hundred a month which is another 4K...He don't got no new clothes or shoes so Im mo have to get him sumthin...Books and supplies is gonna be about 600 hundred cause he in the B school...We gotta ship all his stuff back which is another 300 hundred bucks...Partna wants us to ship his car as he is gonna get the B-mer in August...I gotta help him set up his apartment...This is the short list when I think of some other expenses for him...
So, we talkin about...40K... Son will bring aproximately 3K to the table after his Summer work is done.
We got it but, I just ain't motivated to break him off like this but, I ain't gonna fake on him...HELP....
Give me some inspiration, motivation...fo real! NO HATIN...thanks!
man, at least you got it.... I CAN'T FIND A JOB FOR THE LIFE OF ME...
BOTH of my parents good paying jobs are in jeapardy(mom: IRS, dad: City newspaper)
we thought we could afford CAU, but uh uhh, NOT HAPPENING.
goodness, STOP WHINING ABOUT IT. hopefully as a mother you planned for him going off to school as best as my parents also tried for me, goodness deal with it...
if you really have a problem with his expenses, have him get a job and get his own GD clothes/spending cash, unless you want him not to be distracted. :???:
probably SHOULD get a job so he can have BETTER MONEY AND TIME MANAGEMENT SKILLS...
shoot, I HAVE TO GET AN APARTMENT b/c it's cheaper for me to live in an apt and buy my own frickin food vs. stay on AAMU's campus, seeing as how that's where I'm headed, which is cool.
YEA I'M HATING...DUDE HAS STUFF SET OUT FOR HIM, BY HIS PARENTS, NOW THEY WANNA WHINE ABOUT IT, I JUST DON'T GET IT... THIS REALLY SHOULDN'T BE SUCH A SURPRISE...
Thoroughly Confused...
Excellent perspective. Thank you!
Aggie Warrior & Cafe...
Hmmm, yall one weak **** tag team. I have had to speak to the both, at the same time before...not cute. Not cute at all.
What's Getting Old:
YOU. The two of you and sometimes one of you doing NOTHIN but signifying. Gee Whiz... TRY and go find something constructive to do. Stop trying to DO me. I AM VERY VERY BORED WITH YA!
You know what's getting old...
YOU trying to tell me how to POST, ACT and SPEAK about MY son. That's done got old. Who died and left you in charge of all things "College Mom" on the internet?
Back up! Get off me! Jump on some of these other posters on hbcuconnect who will tear you from limb to limb. SHOO...go play with someone your own age...Use your advice to me...Get with yo real world peeps...go on now skat!
For sure NO one in the real world that you know so much about is beyond tired of your entertaining azzes... YAWN!
Your constant attacks on my mentality...Now THATS CRAZY. You practice "psychology" in cyberspace...yet you call me unstable?
You Know What's Getting Old:
You bein bout as dumb as a brick. READ Cafe READ. You will learn what the point of this or any internet thread is...maybe. You kinda thick up stairs.
YOU DONT HAVE TO POST ON ALL OF MY THREADS...OK???? Get your own light. Go ahead...start your own threads...ask your own internet questions...Oh, I forgot the internet is simply NOT for advice seeking to have you tell it... Leave my "braggin", advice seekin, uncouth **** alone..OK?
Aggie:
You don't accept my apology...your choice. Ain't nobody gonna do more in your direction on this matter. Karma Aggie...Karma. Do what you gotta do. Cafe sure got you by the...
You, Cafe and the Tag-along ,King J, have zero idea the number of PM's I get as relates to the attacks from you. You think the laughs on me...think again. You are SO in the dark...
Skip my post...forget that I exist. Do whatever brain surgery that you were doing before I came on the scene.
CLICK...That's me turning out the light,
SLAM... That's me shutting the door and
FLIP...That's me giving you three the eternal hand because I will keep posting
BUT...I will not ever post back to any of you.
Now...go ahead pick around some other posts...like the late night scavangers that you are...
This Thread is DONE as for my participation.
****.... why you gettin all defensive... hell i never said anything to you as of now... i kept my fingers under control... i never said you had to post anything to anyone... it is a message board, do what you please, but i'ma do what i please... Brett doesn't have me by anything... just b/c i agree with her, doesn't mean i'm whipped... this was my first time really saying anything, but you gonna attack me... man, get out of here with that...
and the laugh is pretty much on you... i've already seen like 8 people laughing in this thread alone... maybe you didn't intend to boast about the finances and what you do for your child, but to many of the people that read it, it sure seems like it... it's good you want to help your son out, my mom does the same for me, but let him do things for himself...
and where did you even apologize to me? if my eyes serve me correctly, i didn't even see a single apology... but if you claimed you apologize, then i accept... i ain't one to disrespect my elders, but if they disrespect me, they gonna get it right back to them... there was no need to attack me... especially since i really didn't say anything much to you to begin with... and if you haven't noticed already, many people have stayed quiet, and now are speaking up... so what you gonna do? attack them as well? the only difference b/t me and Brett is that she's been sayin stuff that most of us were thinking, but didn't really worry about it b/c it wasn't our business... once you posted this, you knew you was gonna get some heat... so that's on you...
and you can do the immature "flipping" of the eternal hand, you think that's gonna stop me? you gotta another thing coming... :lol:
i'm done...
You are obviously a bit mentally unstable. I'm sure the only reason you have turned to the young adults on this website for "advice", is because the people around you (in the real world) are BEYOND tired of your idle chatter.
If the cost is nothing to you, what is the point of this thread?
Proof that I have accurately described College MOM-
College Mom wrote:
Thoroughly Confused...
Excellent perspective. Thank you!
Aggie Warrior & Cafe...
Hmmm, yall one weak **** tag team. I have had to speak to the both, at the same time before...not cute. Not cute at all.
What's Getting Old:
YOU. The two of you and sometimes one of you doing NOTHIN but signifying. Gee Whiz... TRY and go find something constructive to do. Stop trying to DO me. I AM VERY VERY BORED WITH YA!
You know what's getting old...
YOU trying to tell me how to POST, ACT and SPEAK about MY son. That's done got old. Who died and left you in charge of all things "College Mom" on the internet?
Back up! Get off me! Jump on some of these other posters on hbcuconnect who will tear you from limb to limb. SHOO...go play with someone your own age...Use your advice to me...Get with yo real world peeps...go on now skat!
For sure NO one in the real world that you know so much about is beyond tired of your entertaining azzes... YAWN!
Your constant attacks on my mentality...Now THATS CRAZY. You practice "psychology" in cyberspace...yet you call me unstable?
You Know What's Getting Old:
You bein bout as dumb as a brick. READ Cafe READ. You will learn what the point of this or any internet thread is...maybe. You kinda thick up stairs.
YOU DONT HAVE TO POST ON ALL OF MY THREADS...OK???? Get your own light. Go ahead...start your own threads...ask your own internet questions...Oh, I forgot the internet is simply NOT for advice seeking to have you tell it... Leave my "braggin", advice seekin, uncouth **** alone..OK?
Aggie:
You don't accept my apology...your choice. Ain't nobody gonna do more in your direction on this matter. Karma Aggie...Karma. Do what you gotta do. Cafe sure got you by the...
You, Cafe and the Tag-along ,King J, have zero idea the number of PM's I get as relates to the attacks from you. You think the laughs on me...think again. You are SO in the dark...
Skip my post...forget that I exist. Do whatever brain surgery that you were doing before I came on the scene.
CLICK...That's me turning out the light,
SLAM... That's me shutting the door and
FLIP...That's me giving you three the eternal hand because I will keep posting
BUT...I will not ever post back to any of you.
Now...go ahead pick around some other posts...like the late night scavangers that you are...
This Thread is DONE as for my participation.
and to tell her she needs to get help? dumb ****, thats why she posted here. for advice. she dont need no professional help. now if she knew you in person and bragged you would be mad then too, huh. so now its a sin for the "better-off" to let other people know how "better-off" they are?
so to come down on this lady like that i feel is out-of-line.
Negro............
****. I don't even know who you are, but you OBVIOUSLY have not read most of her posts. Comment when ya get some knowledge..lol :grin:
OH, COLLEGE MOM, I HAVE AN IDEA FOR ADVICE...
sell one of your NAVI's or trade ya son's B-Mer in for a stick shift Honda, ehhh, i say '93 is a good year for him...get's GREAT gas mileage...
then if the money issue is that crucial, use the money from the cars and then handle business..... :razz: :???:
