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Behold A Lady Posted on 04-15-2005

laidbackfella
Orangeburg, SC
Should I approach a female as if she is a lady if she is dressed like this?
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MidWestGentleman from Detroit, MI replied on 04-18-2005 06:09PM [Reply]

MissJazzyAKA wrote:
So, who's going to answer the question!?!? I could careless about what you think of a person when you first see them... Point is, you don't know them. I say that because i judge people and have been judged based on outward appearance. I also admit to being wrong about alot of people.
why are you always shouting...point is everybody has judged based on appearance and thats the bottom line...i see a fine girl walking down the street and automatically thinks shes gota have a good personality, but ive come to find out half the time its not the case, so yeah ive judged people on appearance.sometimes im worng, sometimes im right....
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laidbackfella from Orangeburg, SC replied on 04-18-2005 06:15PM [Reply]

MissJazzyAKA wrote:
Have any of you ever been judged based on your appearance, alone???
Yes
MissJazzyAKA wrote:
Were the preconceived notions a true reflection of who you were?
Nope. I've never worn a Police Uniform but I'd expect people to assume that I was one if were to wear it to the scene of a car accident or bank robbery.
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replied on 04-18-2005 06:17PM [Reply]
ummm. i think i'll let yall handle this...
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ClassyWisdom08 replied on 04-18-2005 06:27PM [Reply]
KEY WORD :ASSUME (NOW THIS IS YELLING) Never assume anything about a person.
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laidbackfella from Orangeburg, SC replied on 04-18-2005 06:41PM [Reply]

MissJazzyAKA wrote:
KEY WORD :ASSUME (NOW THIS IS YELLING) Never assume anything about a person.
Actually that's what you keyed in on as you are the one defending your posture. The keyword is EXPECT as in having an accepted understanding of how I will be received, no matter how accurate or inaccurate, by people at the car accident. What do you think is the accepted understanding that these females have of their reception at the club based on how they are dressed?
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ClassyWisdom08 replied on 04-18-2005 06:51PM [Reply]
Does it matter?!? They obviously don't care so why should anyone else be concerned. Besides, this issue goes deeper than what meets the eye. It's a about RESPECT. Whether that PERSON has it for themselves or not, is not the point.
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replied on 04-18-2005 06:57PM [Reply]
MissJazzyAKA wrote:
Have any of you ever been judged based on your appearance, alone???
For one I'm black. And I also have braids.
MissJazzyAKA wrote:
Were the preconceived notions a true reflection of who you were?
Yeah, because the people I've received a bad initial reaction from (pretty much older adults) thought I was an idiot. Which is definately not the case at all. And people have been really surprised at how I actually am once I actually hold a convo with them. But... you didn't answer my question :-) . Would you treat and/or have the same amount of respect for those men?
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laidbackfella from Orangeburg, SC replied on 04-18-2005 07:07PM [Reply]

MissJazzyAKA wrote:
Does it matter?!?
Who's not answering questions now? For the course of conversation your opinion is what I'm interested. If you are gonna get dismissive at this point in the discussion just bow out. I'm actually trying to get an understanding of a females perception of a few things. It gets more difficult when y'all get all combative.
MissJazzyAKA wrote:
They obviously don't care so why should anyone else be concerned.
Which is what I've been asking for a while.
MissJazzyAKA wrote:
Besides, this issue goes deeper than what meets the eye. It's a about RESPECT.
Exactly. And are there differing levels of respect?
MissJazzyAKA wrote:
Whether that PERSON has it for themselves or not, is not the point.
But should I treat them better than they treat themselves?
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MidWestGentleman from Detroit, MI replied on 04-18-2005 07:11PM [Reply]

MissJazzyAKA wrote:
KEY WORD :ASSUME (NOW THIS IS YELLING) Never assume anything about a person.
key thing to look for: what are you talking about !! Does it matter?!? usually when you use an exclamation point it involves raising of the voice... :arrow:
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MidWestGentleman from Detroit, MI replied on 04-18-2005 07:11PM [Reply]

double post!!!
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