I'm trying to figure this ****out, becuase me and my ex-boyfreind are going through some SHYT. Letme pop game to ya.
Now lets say you have found that one girl that takes care of you, anything you needed she got you, she's always there when you need her, you love her, family loves her too...you know...
Okay, so you're not ready for a relationship with her because, you don't know if you can competly turn away any temptation that comes you way. You wanna be free to see other people. Understandable. But because of the relationship you two have, you know she is always going to be there...so that when you are ready...you can pick up where you left off... :roll: ha...assumptions...
Anyways... how do you make a person not take you for granted. How do you do this in a way that they know you will always be there for them...but not always be HERE for them..? Do I make any sense? Yeah...he's probably right with the I'll always be here...but I don't want him to KNOW that. I want to become challange again...
Am I making good sense?
UPDATE...its funny how things end up...
Saturday was my Grandmother's suprise birthday party in QC. My mom had arranged for John to ride up there with me, because my parents have some kind of fear of my driving long distances by myself...::sigh:: anyways, I told her that I didn't want to ride with John, but to find out he had went through alot of changes with his job and with school so that he could ride with me. So I let him. When we get to riding I'm silent as a rock...not saying anything. And neiter was he. SO about halfway there he just bust out with a "What the hell did I do wrong Ashley" And I just look at him....then back at the road. About 10 mintues later he goes "I did something wrong, I can see it all over your face LaLa *that was below the belt because that's the pet name he uses for me*. You've always been able to talk to me, so why can't you now?" So I bust out with the whole story. How he takes me for granted and how he left me so he could go out and "explore" and I told him I was tired of the shyt. He was going to see what life was without me always being there for him.....
Whew.....
So he's sitting there in shock And at this point I'm getting misty eyed but in the back of my mind I yelling "Be A G, ****! MAN UP! STOP THAT DAMN CRYING" He goes" LaLa....Ashley...baby..."you are my everything. I'm sorry that they way I treat makes you think I take you for granted. Because I don't. You are the most precious thing that I have on this planet. And I wouldn't do anything to lose you. I figured you would always be the one that was by my side, my ride or die misses, my wifey....and I guess that means I don't act like I value you...but Lord knows I do. When I said I wanted to be free, it wasn't to persue other females...yeah I got freinds...but so do you. I'm taking some time for myself, because I just need to. I know that I can't be the man you need me to be unless I get some ****straight with me first. I need to get right with me and I need to get right with God. Please don't be mad at me, I need you..."
At this point I realize I need him in my life too...but I'mma let him go get himself straight however he needs to. I'm still going to back off about 50 feet, but at the same time, if he needs a shoulder or someone to lean on... I got him. Might be foolish...but that's how I am...a fool in love....God will get my thru this....Maybe God will get US thru this...
I was just about to ask what happened with your situation and I saw you posted it on here. I am glad that ya'll were able to talk and get ya'lls feelings and everything out on the table. At least he knows now how you feel, and you know now how he feels and it seems like you were happy with the results. All you can do is take it slow and leave it in God's hands. Everything happens for a reason, so if ya'll are meant to be (which it seems like ya'll are).....then ya'll will be in due time.
oh Larry cheer up....maybe love is just not for you ****...
pish posh. Love is for EVERYONE
ignore larry, he's on his period...besides he wouldnt know love if it hit him in his big cynical mcgill ****
love exists, its just realllllly hard to find.....like finding a needle in a haystack, cause love requires the patience and trust of another and if that other person doesnt express that towards you and yet you feel very special to that other person then of course you would be quick to write it off and try to curse the world over and over again......but yeah jade *keep hope alive* and good luck on your relationship and love in general, but dont be a fool in love though, be smart about it, take your time, play your cards right.... and imma need for you to stop letting the lightskinned antichrist advise you in love matters :lol: ...my gurls kee, keisha and kenya got your back and bigups to god
:::tears welling up in her eyes::
I thought you guys where gonna be upset at me for not being tough...because in that car I was anything but. Fell apart at the seams as soon as he started using that damn voice (you know when there voice drops about two octaves)...oh well. Thank you guys. Like I said, this doesn't mean it ain't over. I'm still going to be a hard @$$ and show him whoes boss until he realizes his faults, but atleast he knows why I'm doing it know...
THANKS YOU GUYS!!!
