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Physical vs. Emotional Attraction Posted on 08-24-2007
smc112
Laguana Hills, CA
Which do you think is the strongest? Which one would you prefer over the other one and why? You can't choose both. You have to give an explanation of which one you would choose and why. Men can answer this question too. I will start by saying that I would choose Emotional attraction. I have actually dated attractive men in the past that have been foul individuals. Also, I've dated some average looking men that have been foul. So basically I do not choose a man based on looks. I would say that I'm attracted to someone who treats me like the queen that I am!
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rkfl2004 from Brooklyn, NY replied on 08-24-2007 01:20PM [Reply]
I wish I could say the same smc112...Honestly I feel that about 99% of ppl are good at heart and that its only because of circumstances why certain ppl don't show it or just take longer to. However, everyone just CAN'T be attractive no matter how hard you try to make them(the best that could happen is that their face kinda rubs off on you). That being said, I'd rather put in a lil more work and bring out the good in you then sit there resenting ur face every time I see u (that can't be good for a relationship..lol).... Plus..I feel like I work too hard to keep myself together to settle for someone whose appearance doesn't complement my own... ...looks down in shame...i feel soooo shallow
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Sister Tamara from Davenport, IA replied on 08-25-2007 09:17AM [Reply]

PRAISE THE LORD!!! This question is like a catch 22...but it does get you to thinking... I'm going to be honest, before I can even get to know someone in order for there to be a emotional attraction, he has to be nice looking to me . He doesn't have to be "movie star" handsome, but he can't be **** either I do choose emotional because looks do change with age. I want someone that I enjoy being with and they make me feel like there is no one in the world like me . Even if we don't agree it wont be a big blow out, we will be able to work through anything. Now don't misunderstand me, before I even get to the emotional attraction I have to watch him (not stalk him) and see if he has a "true" relationship with God, because if he doesn't than it doesn't matter how good he looks or how nice he is!!!
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smc112 from Laguana Hills, CA replied on 08-25-2007 03:01PM [Reply]
Sister Tamara wrote:
PRAISE THE LORD!!! Now don't misunderstand me, before I even get to the emotional attraction I have to watch him (not stalk him) and see if he has a "true" relationship with God, because if he doesn't than it doesn't matter how good he looks or how nice he is!!!
Now that is right. No matter how good looking he is or appears to be nice, he has to have a relationship with Jesus. If he doesn't, he can't treat you nice or treat you the way you should be treated. Also, if a guy doesn't have a relationship with God that is a major turnoff! Those guys don't even look good to me. Character is a major issue and if a man lacks character he has to go!
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rkfl2004 from Brooklyn, NY replied on 08-26-2007 02:46AM [Reply]
Now on the flip side of this...RKFL2004 I know you are thinking this.. LOL. The flip side is possibly being married to a man that you aren't physically attracted to, and you don't even want him to touch you. Now... that would be a nightmare! LOL ^^^^ amen to that..but i agree with you physical attraction really can only take you soo far..If there's no substance after a while even if my eyes don't stray my mind probly will.
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che' replied on 11-06-2007 06:47PM [Reply]
Phy-see-cal, Baby
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smc112 from Laguana Hills, CA replied on 11-06-2007 07:32PM [Reply]
I'm still agreeing with emotional attraction. If a man can touch you emotionally he is bound to touch you in other physical areas. If you start out not physically attracted to a man eventually the physical attraction will come if you are emotionally attracted. Like Creflo Dollar says, "Cute don't pay no bills! You can put some anointing on some **** and you will be all set!" LOL Creflo Dollar's theory has some truth to it. You are seeing more and more **** men with beautiful women. For one thing, they aren't scared to approach a beautiful woman. These cute guys sit back and try to wait while the **** jokers have stepped up their game. These cute guys are letting the **** one's take all of the women. I think emotional attraction is way more important than physical. When you finally marry this individual that you are so physically attracted to and after you have had enough orgasms and then you realize that you married a closed and dumb-minded individual, or someone who can't support his household, you will be in trouble! So it is best to not base your attraction off of looks because that will not be important after you marry.
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ThatClassyGirl216 replied on 11-08-2007 12:59AM [Reply]
I'll say emotional is what I PREFER, I'll take that over physical...I see it this way...emotional triggers the physical attraction in some way...for example...the type of bond I have with my fiance'...we share so much together emotionally...some of the things between us makes me love him even moreso physically...but it does help that I was attracted to him physically first!!!
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t2dakwont replied on 11-08-2007 01:24AM [Reply]
u can't have an emotional attraction unless u are physically attracted to the person, in my opinion. its like initially that person attracts u and then u grow to either love or hate their personality. why do u think so many people love celebrities? i mean they work hard to keep that level of physical attraction when at the end of the day somebody wit 50s body, Mekhi's smile, and Morris' face could be a complete asshole.
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smc112 from Laguana Hills, CA replied on 11-08-2007 04:39PM [Reply]
You can have an emotional attraction to a person that you aren't physically attracted to at first. Having you heard of the saying, "He is starting to grow on me?" That is because the person has attracted you emotionally. I know for fact that I have been attracted to guys emotionally first and then their looks started to grow on me. Physical attraction flies out the window if a guy is a certified ****. I don't care how good he looks if he can't keep me stimulated mentally he is bound to go flat in the physical area.
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