Unfortunately it sounds like you two are on two different pages.
Even if he didn't have to say "I love you" back, the expression of your feelings doesn't warrant a laugh. It just shows a sign of immaturity in my eyes. Depending on what you want to get out of the relationship, you may want to rethink this relationship.
See after I read her reply I thought at first that he had a right to laugh BUT she started it all with saying that they were conversing about "us" and their relationship. Now if they were just talkin about something on tv and she blurted out that she loved him then I would laugh too. But if you're laying it out on the table, then that was the time to express her feelings and for him not to laugh. There's nothing wrong with her catching feelings. Like she said, she was cool with him not reciprocating the same feelings. She just didn't want to get laughed at.
In the end, we're only seeing one side of the convo so ain't no telling what really went down cuz being a man, I'm sure she was doing most of the talking. Perfect example of women being more emotional and men being more physical.
Is this a monogamous relationship? My initial thought is no.
Sister Tamara Thank you for your input because I feel you are 100% right.....
I want 2 leave him alone....kissing,touching,talkin,etc but its hard and it does seem like Im selling myself short by continuing this QUOTE ON QUOTE "Relationship" with him.If I was him I couldnt take ****seriously so you are right by saying I am trippin cuz thats how I feel also. Like Im walking around in LALA Land. I would love for it 2 be just me and him and we can work things out but it seems like Im being unrealistic. My feelings developed 4 him and right now Im just trying 2 figure out how Im bout 2 let it all play out.....It would be best for me 2 just let it fizz out.
PRAISE THE LORD!!!
You know sometimes the hardest part of doing something is getting started. Once you make that first step, the rest of the steps get easier. I believe that not only are you a strong female, but also that you can do anything that you set your mind out to do. Take this as a lesson learned, because I'm going to tell you something...I tried to have me a friend with benefits. Someone that I would call when I had an itch that I needed to be scratched. Dude was the coolest guy I had ever kicked it with and we got along great. I caught feelings without even trying. When I realized it I tried to play hard with myself and act like I wasn't feeling the way that I was feeling, but it only got worse. Whenever I use to ask dude how did he feel about me, he would either tell me that I was cool or that I was alright. Neither one of those answers was what I wanted to hear. I wanted him to tell me something to make me tell him that I had feelings, but he never did. He just liked to kick it with me. I did everything "TO HIM & FOR HIM" that a man would want from a woman and he was in love with that---but not me!!! So, I slowly started shutting down the intimate stuff. Then when we was just chilling and watching t.v. or talking on the phone, it wasn't enough for hm. He slowly started moving on to someone else, which made it easier for me to let go. I still cried myself to sleep some nights because I wanted him to be the one so bad, but I had to get myself together and realize that if he really was the one, he would have stayed there and been the one...YOU FEEL ME!!! This is why I know that you will be alright, because I am better than alright & a stronger female because of it!!! "SO KEEP YOUR HEAD UP & KNOW THAT EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT!!!"
PRAISE THE LORD!!!
You know sometimes the hardest part of doing something is getting started. Once you make that first step, the rest of the steps get easier. I believe that not only are you a strong female, but also that you can do anything that you set your mind out to do. Take this as a lesson learned, because I'm going to tell you something...I tried to have me a friend with benefits. Someone that I would call when I had an itch that I needed to be scratched. Dude was the coolest guy I had ever kicked it with and we got along great. I caught feelings without even trying. When I realized it I tried to play hard with myself and act like I wasn't feeling the way that I was feeling, but it only got worse. Whenever I use to ask dude how did he feel about me, he would either tell me that I was cool or that I was alright. Neither one of those answers was what I wanted to hear. I wanted him to tell me something to make me tell him that I had feelings, but he never did. He just liked to kick it with me. I did everything "TO HIM & FOR HIM" that a man would want from a woman and he was in love with that---but not me!!! So, I slowly started shutting down the intimate stuff. Then when we was just chilling and watching t.v. or talking on the phone, it wasn't enough for hm. He slowly started moving on to someone else, which made it easier for me to let go. I still cried myself to sleep some nights because I wanted him to be the one so bad, but I had to get myself together and realize that if he really was the one, he would have stayed there and been the one...YOU FEEL ME!!! This is why I know that you will be alright, because I am better than alright & a stronger female because of it!!! "SO KEEP YOUR HEAD UP & KNOW THAT EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT!!!"
Great advice!
...but how ironic is it that I've heard that first line two times in less than 24 hours.
But if you're laying it out on the table, then that was the time to express her feelings and for him not to laugh. There's nothing wrong with her catching feelings. Like she said, she was cool with him not reciprocating the same feelings. She just didn't want to get laughed at.
In the end, we're only seeing one side of the convo so ain't no telling what really went down cuz being a man, I'm sure she was doing most of the talking. Perfect example of women being more emotional and men being more physical.
Is this a monogamous relationship? My initial thought is no.
