Some time ago, a friend and I were having a conversation about who is meant for us. His parents had brought him up to believe that he would be able to date girls from other races, but he was meant to be married to a black girl. I understood his poinbt, but I saw things differently. I felt that one should not put boundaries on who they can and csnnot love, because there are several opportunities that one might miss out on. What do you think? Are you meant to be with a man or woman of your own race, or could anyone be made to fit you?
i know for a fact that i was meant to marry a strong black woman. i couldnt see my self with someone in another race, for 1 there isnt any way a woman of another race would be able to understand me like a black woman could. also i dont think that there is another race where the woman support their man like black woman do. i think black woman are just so strong, and they know how to treat a man. but then again i only have black woman to compare from so who knows.
i know for a fact that i was meant to marry a strong black woman. i couldnt see my self with someone in another race, for 1 there isnt any way a woman of another race would be able to understand me like a black woman could. also i dont think that there is another race where the woman support their man like black woman do. i think black woman are just so strong, and they know how to treat a man. but then again i only have black woman to compare from so who knows.
agree...except, flip it 4 me, obviously (Black man 'stead of tha Black woman)...
my mom's whole thing has always been...whether the person we end up with be Black, White, green, or purple...whoeva makes us happy is all she cares about...she'd rather us be with a White (Hispanic, Asian, etc.) person who treats us with 110% respect, consideration, loyalty, etc...than a Black person who is half-assed and/or triflin'...
BUT...anyone who knows my mother knows that although she wants us (my brother & I) to know that we are free to date whichever race we please, deep down inside, she would preFER that we at least end up w/ someone of our own race...
& that's pretty much how I feel....I don't think I'll ever date a White guy...or Asian guy...maybe Hispanic...but as 4 who I'm w/ in the end....I can pretty much put money on that person being a brotha...4 pretty much the same reasons Mr. Howard stated above...
I felt that one should not put boundaries on who they can and csnnot love, because there are several opportunities that one might miss out on
I disagree, everyone has to have a boundary on everything they do. Now if u are talking about a boundary as far as races, nothing wrong with that. And a boundary on what type of person u date is not bad either, a female having a boundary of not dating no crack head, or ex-con, or whatever, is not a bad boundary to me
for me its weird. I'm a latina. 100%. Spanish name, Last names spanish and all, etc. etc. My mother is half Dominican, half Panamanian. My father is 50% Cuban, 50% Puerto Rican. So they're both mestizos but 100% latinos nonetheless. BUT...my mother is in DR, my father is trying to mold his own new family with a new fiance, etc. etc.
I personally love my latino fellas, i have MUCH love for them, no doubt.
Where I stay now, i stay with GOD-family. My God-mother was my REAL mothers bestfriend in New York. They're Black-Americans. I was raised around them, i was raised back and forth between where i am now, and Dallas, Texas...with the other minor places i went to that don't count. i was BORN in 617, though...BEANTOWN...Mass.
And from being raised around them so much, and in their hood, predominantly black, with some mexicans, etc., i always had black boyfriends. Or mixed with black. there was ONE guy who wasnt either, he was Korean and Italian, but he doesn't count for anything pertaining to this obviously l0lz. I LOVE my black fellas too...no doubt...i'm a latina morena, although everyone here says im yellow or mad bright, but nonetheless because of my defined facial features, and thick curliness and waves of my hair, you cant ignore my ethnic physical accents. I feel so CLOSE to home when i talk to other latinos, and culturally close, but i ALSO feel mad close to my black peoplez only because i was raised around them since day 1 pretty much, lived in that hood, was always mistaken for "just mixed" or "white and black", etc. etc. lived in the same type of household, gotten the SAME discrimination of course because of complexion and skin color, basically i was never looked at as different, never set apart, if i was made fun of it was only for jokes and laughs between friends or something BECAUSE of my nationalities. and my GOD-family, though they're no relation to ME, their family is SOOO mixed up, i've been to countless family reunions thrown by them, they have Lebanese people, white people, native american..and this is by BLOOD, not marriage.. but i feel like i don't need to have a certain preference when loooking for a husband.. I'll date anyone because skin-color means NOTHING to me. Being mixed with many diff. things, i have no room to hate ANYONE. one of my fav. quotes: mira la esencia, no las apariencias....look at the essence, not the appearances.....After all that was said, l0lz, i really do feel like i've been molded into somebody great, and that i've come a long way...i wouldn't change that much about my past and who i've grown up around, because they've molded me into a very open-minded person, they've molded me into a CONSCIOUS person...and i feel like i don't HAVE to marry someone of my own race because that's not what i've grown up to have WORRIES about...its hard enough trying to find ANYONE out here thats good husband material, whose LEVEL-HEADED, has his mind and his life right...my priorities towards finding a husband have NOTHING to do with his skin-color. That's just me though.
I felt that one should not put boundaries on who they can and csnnot love, because there are several opportunities that one might miss out on
I disagree, everyone has to have a boundary on everything they do. Now if u are talking about a boundary as far as races, nothing wrong with that. And a boundary on what type of person u date is not bad either, a female having a boundary of not dating no crack head, or ex-con, or whatever, is not a bad boundary to me
I meant race. I mean I do put non- racial boundaries on the women I date, but I do not feel that I HAVE to marry a black woman in order to be truly happy.
Well, in regards to personal choice you will Always have adversity when it comes to who yo want to be with you. They arent tall enough, smart enough, black enough, rich enough... My mom told me from a young age that she wanted me not to make the mistake of being with someone because of their race and I had that ingrained into my thought process. I don't see a bias when I look at women, but I guess its a bit presumptuous of me to think that people know different.
I dont know about all of this "meant for you" stuff, but if you shoudl be with anyone for a long while you should make it a person that keeps you on your toes, dwells in happiness (and makes you happy), has a set of morals and wants nothing more than to be near you (if you dont want to be around them, why the hell are you with them?).
*Another reason why I get offended at pre-racist comments like "sticking to your own race" as far as dating is concerned is because my half sister Annikah is mixed. Even though shes mixed with black and mexican, if my mom wouldnt have opened up her vision to see what she wanted in another race, that girl wouldnt be around. I love my sister to death, would cut anyone over her and I love playing the protective brother role. So if I sound adamant when a girl calls me a "Betty-Lover" or when I see someone hated on because of their personal choice I become extremely dissapointed and upset. You have a right to disagree, but keep it to your f*cking self. :arrow:
once again i dont have a problem with mixed children but it does bother me a little bit when i see a black successful brother with a white woman or a black woman with a white man. for some reason it doesnt bother me to see race mixin with spanish or anyother race besides whites. you can not agree or whatever but im just speaking off the top of my dome. just to me, when i see white and black people mixing i see it as there goes one less all black family. like i love to see an all black family (FATHER, mother and two or three kids) out at the park or a restaurant. with the father driving a nice car living in a nice house and just all around happy. thats just how i want my family to be. everybody has heard the saying lets get our race together before we go jumpin in other races all willy nilly. these are just my thought gentlewomen (yes that is a word) and gentlemen.
/\/\/\/\/\ My brother, I understand where you are coming from. The first time I saw an interraccial couple in North Carolina, I was surprised, i figured that a black woman would see nothing in a white man, and vice versa, but I soon became accustomed to it. I heard something the other day in my african diaspoora class that really stood out. There is no such thing as a pure race right now. **** probably had intercourse with your great great grandmother or grand aunt or someone else in your family tree, therefore you are not purely black (This may not necessarily apply to you). No one is purely white, or black or asian, or anything else. We are all mixed, therefore, it should not matter the color of one's skin, I feel we should be able to look past all of that, to the person within. If that person makes you happy, if he or she fits you, then you should be with her/him, red, yellow, black or white.
I felt that one should not put boundaries on who they can and csnnot love, because there are several opportunities that one might miss out on
I disagree, everyone has to have a boundary on everything they do. Now if u are talking about a boundary as far as races, nothing wrong with that. And a boundary on what type of person u date is not bad either, a female having a boundary of not dating no crack head, or ex-con, or whatever, is not a bad boundary to me
