Let me give you a hypothetical situation.
Let's say you meet a girl. You start off good, making sure you don't call for a couple of days. Check. You setup a date, things go well. Check. You call the following week to see how she is. She says she's busy and she'll call you back. Hmmm, ok.
So you sit around waiting for her to call. You start thinking, what if she doesn't call? She calls back a couple of hours later. You think to yourself, cool, she digs me and you get excited. So you set up another date and things go ok. You call the week after but she's not home. You leave a message and she doesn't call back. WTF?
You get frustrated and confused, so you try calling her again. She says she was sick all week. Oh, ok. Again you breathe a sigh of relief. "It had nothing to do with me, and she still likes me." So you're happy again.
Do you see the pattern?
The problem is, you are giving the girl emotional control over the situations. Sure, your behavior might suggest that you're a DJ, but you're letting the girl dictate your moods.
When she didn't call, you got upset. When she did call, you got happy. If her behavior pattern changes in any way, your emotions start clouding your better judgment, and you start trying to overcompensate for something you may or may not have done.
The sad thing is, most guys don't even realize this, because they are too busy trying to make sure their BEHAVIOR is ok, when in fact they have already lost because they have given up EMOTIONAL control. Once you lose control of your emotions, it's only a matter of time before your behavior follows suit. The loss of emotional control will almost always lead to AFC (wussy) behavior in the end.
The solution to this is to detach yourself from the situation.
You must not put too much emotional investment into a girl, especially in the beginning. By letting her dictate your moods, you start to become dependent on her to make you happy. And once she has control of your emotions, your behavior will change for the worst.
So the point I'm trying to make is this: this site can help you with your behavior, but in the end, you have to control your emotions, because it WILL override your behavior if you let it.
Keep your emotions in check and I can guarantee that you will come out on top
This is interesting for the simple fact that mos guys don't a woman get to close to have emotional control over them. And even when a woman is close to them they still don't give up total emotional control. Remember men are the ones with the limited emotional perspective :roll: ...or so they think?
Regardless of whether you're a man or a woman, if you allow others to manipulate your state of mind, it is a sign of spiritual immaturity.
You do not control the actions of others, and those actions only carry the meaning that you allow them to mean. Isn't it irritating to see people getting attitudes because someone they don't know looked at them the wrong way, or something like that? Why are you going to allow a decision someone else made, in their flawed judgment, to destroy your day?
Or as in PT's example, she did not call you. If she didn't call, then she didn't call. If you are spiritually immature, you will assume that you are not worthy of her time. If you are mature, you will realize that the opinions of others don't affect you in the least.
So God forbid, she is not interested. Her loss.
Holla!
Regardless of whether you're a man or a woman, if you allow others to manipulate your state of mind, it is a sign of spiritual immaturity.
You do not control the actions of others, and those actions only carry the meaning that you allow them to mean. Isn't it irritating to see people getting attitudes because someone they don't know looked at them the wrong way, or something like that? Why are you going to allow a decision someone else made, in their flawed judgment, to destroy your day?
Or as in PT's example, she did not call you. If she didn't call, then she didn't call. If you are spiritually immature, you will assume that you are not worthy of her time. If you are mature, you will realize that the opinions of others don't affect you in the least.
So God forbid, she is not interested. Her loss.
Holla!
Hey dawg, when you goin' on tour as a Motivational Speaker?
Regardless of whether you're a man or a woman, if you allow others to manipulate your state of mind, it is a sign of spiritual immaturity.
You do not control the actions of others, and those actions only carry the meaning that you allow them to mean. Isn't it irritating to see people getting attitudes because someone they don't know looked at them the wrong way, or something like that? Why are you going to allow a decision someone else made, in their flawed judgment, to destroy your day?
Or as in PT's example, she did not call you. If she didn't call, then she didn't call. If you are spiritually immature, you will assume that you are not worthy of her time. If you are mature, you will realize that the opinions of others don't affect you in the least.
So God forbid, she is not interested. Her loss.
Holla!
Hey dawg, when you goin' on tour as a Motivational Speaker?
Imma be real with you, I have been cotrolled in situations similar to those before and have never known how to become unattached. I mean I an optimist so I'm always looking down the road in relationships so in the beginning I'm always excited and ready to start a new chapter, but I mostly seem to feel that we're not on the same page.
Big ups to y'all. Y'all know how to help a brotha better himself
Regardless of whether you're a man or a woman, if you allow others to manipulate your state of mind, it is a sign of spiritual immaturity.
You do not control the actions of others, and those actions only carry the meaning that you allow them to mean. Isn't it irritating to see people getting attitudes because someone they don't know looked at them the wrong way, or something like that? Why are you going to allow a decision someone else made, in their flawed judgment, to destroy your day?
Or as in PT's example, she did not call you. If she didn't call, then she didn't call. If you are spiritually immature, you will assume that you are not worthy of her time. If you are mature, you will realize that the opinions of others don't affect you in the least.
So God forbid, she is not interested. Her loss.
Holla!
Hey dawg, when you goin' on tour as a Motivational Speaker?
LOL. Cosigns.
Not trying to preach to the choir, just telling it like it is, because some people need to hear it.
