Man today is Fathers day and Im tryin to reflect on the father that I never had. Then I see how hard it was for my mom to struggle and make it tryin to raise a child on her own. But the thing thats gettin me is all these dudes out here in the world denyin thier children. I mean every other day on Maury its some dude talkin bout the kids isnt his only in most cases to be proven wrong. Its time for us young brothas to wake up forreal man. Alot of the problems goin on in the black community stem from the lack of a strong family background. INCLUDING lack of a father. Forreal alot of the things lil youngins out here doin today wouldnt be happenin if there was a dad in the home. Lil 14 and 15 year old girls wouldnt be gettin pregnant if pops was there to show them the love they need. Lil **** wouldnt be out here robbin and killin each other if pops was in the home teachin them about life, playin ball with them, or just watchin the game wit em. Lil girls out here lookin for love from a male figure so they out here sleepin around thinkin thats gonna give em love (NOT ALL BUT SOME). Lil dudes be lookin up to dudes they see being successful and since it aint dad they lookin to rappers and ballers and **** out here on the street. Moms be tryin to raise a family but she cant be there for her kids and be at work at the same time. So dudes go out there and slang tryin to help moms put money on the table. So now lil youngins lookin up to the dudes slangin cuz they see that they makin money. It went from hustlin cuz u have to to now hustlin cuz u want to. Im just one of the lucky few that had strong females around me teachin me right from wrong.....
And thats real talk..... your comments are appreciated
^Their are many of us that have strong women that taught us right from wrong.
But I was watching "Sister, Sister" and Tamera was jealous because Ray, he father, was spending time with Tia. Lisa, Tia's mother, noticed Tamera's jealously and said a whole in Tia's heart was filled with something only a father's love can fill. And that's so true. You can be the happiest person in the world with great family but when your father is gone or absent all of you life, you don't feel complete.
damn..thatz all i can say!! that was some real talk, im glad to see that there are still young black brotherz who know the deal. wish more dudez saw thingz the way you do...
I feel as though I am very blessed to have my father fully present in my life, as well as a strong mother who has fought battles no human should have to fight.
Especially today, I do reflect on these blessings and sometimes I cant help but wonder where I would be without my father present. My mother is priceless to me, no doubt, but my father shows me another side of life, how to be a good man to others and myself. To those who may not have had a father present in their lives, I hope that you all know yall got a Father upstairs that will care for you and watch over you better than any parent can.
As for my future, I know that from what I've seen to date in both households with and without fathers, I will be there for my kid(s) and teach them the things my father taught me. So with that, I wish erryone on here a Happy Parents Day and all of God's blessings
I agree with Rod 100%. But as mentioned when referrin to Maury, I think that too many women are sleeping around with men in general, and with men who are no good...and then they dont know why the daddies are. I think we as women need to make more responsible decisions with the men we get involved with cause if we choose better, more responsible men in general, we would have less deadbeats. Too many young women involve themselves with men who they no are no good from jump. So when she winds up pregnant, she gets all upset that he isnt takin responsibility, but she knew what kinda dude he was when she first got involved with him. There is NEVER an excuse as to a man not being there for his kids, but like i said, if we as women make more responsible choices with the men we get involved with there shouldnt be as much reason for a man to be no good, cause we would only involve ourselves with the positive, responsible men who are about sumthin, and who will be there in case an unexpected child was to come along. Of course there are the cases where the dude seemed like he was about sumthing when u got involved with him and seemed like he was the responsible type. But when u involvin yourself with a dude who livin at home with his moms, got 4 kids with 4 different babies mamas, and then you bout to be #5, it shouldnt surprise you that he do you the same way he do his other 4 baby mamas...but like i said...every situation is different...I just think overall we need to evaluate the men we get involved with...cause if we stop gettin involved with no good n*ggas, there would less **** donors, and more FATHERS out there.
I am very fortunate to have grown up in a household with a father. Believe it or not, I believe a father in the household makes a difference. Not saying without a father sh*t will be hectic but having a good father around makes a difference.
I have learned from seeing how my dad acts and listening to the little things he says how to raise a family in the right way. I learned hard work even though my **** is lazy.... :lol: But for real I learned all that and way, way, way more and for that I am very glad
i know i'd be a corrupted child if my dad wasn't around (corrupted in a bad way, b/c i'm already corrupted now) i always thought that the things he said were pointless, and stupid, but i look back and i'm glad he told me b/c the words he's said so far are the best words i can hear, b/c i know he loves and cares for me... makes me happy to be his namesake :grin:
i know i'd be a corrupted child if my dad wasn't around (corrupted in a bad way, b/c i'm already corrupted now) i always thought that the things he said were pointless, and stupid, but i look back and i'm glad he told me b/c the words he's said so far are the best words i can hear, b/c i know he loves and cares for me... makes me happy to be his namesake :grin:
damn..thatz all i can say!! that was some real talk, im glad to see that there are still young black brotherz who know the deal. wish more dudez saw thingz the way you do...
I must cosign on this! My father has been in my life as well as my older brothers and I am very happy that he stresses education and staying on the right side of the track. He grew up in a single family home and had to live with relatives at various times due to money issue my g-ma had. He could have chosen to skip school and do wrong stuff but he chose to stay strong. He chose to stay around as a father to myself and my brothers. I know you will do the same! :-D
I'm so glad I've been fortunate unlike Rod. I'm blessed that I've been able to have 2 fathers, my daddy and my dad(stepfather) in my life. Makes you really think to not take it for advantage.
