They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now. You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you. You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward. You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender! What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.
Qua, where did you get that from? Or is that straight from you?
that hit so home for me...i hope it is a phase, but i've been going through pretty much all of what that mentioned...for the last year
i love college and life, period...but it's more like an...inner struggle sometimes, ya know...trying to figure everything out and making sure it stays that way...and becoming frustrated as hell when it doesn't...
wanting to grow up (and needing to), but at the same time forever wanting to be "just a kid" and with no obligations or too much responsibility...
it's enough to tear you completely apart....sometimes almost feels like the sky is falling and the world has ended...but i know it hasn't....just feels that way sometimes...
so yeah...i'm glad to see it all made a little more clear in print...i hope menopause doesn't feel as bad as this :?
I'm in the middle of one of those right now....
When I got to the part about saying "you love someone, but at the same time, you want someone else" and the part saying "you worry about loans, money and making a life for yourself....." :cry:
That paragraph hit my current status right on the damn head!
... those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest... the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important... What you don't recognize is that they are as confused as you... One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted starts to look pathetic.
Strangely, those things are opposite for me! I have not yet begun to live. Bring on the alcohol and cheap hook ups.
and the part saying "you worry about loans, money and making a life for yourself....." :cry:
That paragraph hit my current status right on the damn head!
