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MidWestGentleman

Detroit, MI

MidWestGentleman Detroit, MI

pretty simple just like the name says... ill be back later with some...

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cafe-aulait · May 2005

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Ms.H.B.I.C wrote:
But you know its whatever floats ya boat Brett...If settling down and being the wife and having babies is ya dream and being able to work from home while you got ya husband and Sh*t...well do the damn thang with ya "GROWN" ****

It all depends on what type of woman you are. Some people look forward to havin a family and getting married. So people look forward to their career. Some look forward to kickin it and travelin. Some look forward to eatin out everyday. Some look forward to socializing with their girls. I look forward to ALL of the above. My mother was able to pull it off, and I will too. My mother kicks it, travels, work, raised me and my brother, eats out damn near everyday, and has had a husband for goin on 19 years. If fact my mother is one of the biggest socialites around. And she had me right when she got out of college. We are some multi-taskin women! Im the type of person that doesn't view having a family as a hinderance. Its part of life. I aint tryna wait around and then have a 10 yr old when Im 43 or 44... I want to be developing and progressing in my career, and owning commercial property across the country with few strings attached.

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· May 2005

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Ms.H.B.I.C wrote:
Girl Im grown now and do what I want. - Ok now I see you... Thats what college is for- College doesnt exactly make you "grown" per say...jus cuz ya away from ya peoplez don't make ya grown. I already got my lil townhouse down in Tallahassee. Give me two years and Ima own a house. Three years and Ima own a couple two flats. I aint tryna be 50 when my kids are in they're most formative years. I want to be through raising kids by 45. Yeah true...but I would've rather lived a couple of years, be older and wiser for my kids. I will graduate with my master's in 2009, and I'll be 22. A year from now I'll be a senior in college if things go the way I hope. After I pop that baby out... If Im workin for a firm already, I will take a month off, and then hand em to my mommy.... I dunno...I mean yeah I'll be graduating from college with my BA. in is it 08 which is cool with me. One thing I've learned from watching my grandmother...from watching young SINGLE moms...from seeing LIFE, it doesnt go how you PLAN it out to be. I'd rather be able to enjoy like i said...my early 20's...be able to date..to kick it with my homegurls. To be able just to enjoy you know the whole traveling scene...to get up and go when I please. Sh*t I don't even consider myself grown cuz guess what...when I leave Carbondale next week I'm taking my black **** to my momma house...where my MOMMA pay the bills...and where my MOMMA run the show...and im content with that. But you know its whatever floats ya boat Brett...If settling down and being the wife and having babies is ya dream and being able to work from home while you got ya husband and Sh*t...well do the damn thang with ya "GROWN" ****
There it is...

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P o e t i q R e i g n from Greensboro, NC · May 2005

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cafe-aulait wrote:
Ms.H.B.I.C wrote:
But you know its whatever floats ya boat Brett...If settling down and being the wife and having babies is ya dream and being able to work from home while you got ya husband and Sh*t...well do the damn thang with ya "GROWN" ****
It all depends on what type of woman you are. Some people look forward to havin a family and getting married. So people look forward to their career. Some look forward to kickin it and travelin. Some look forward to eatin out everyday. Some look forward to socializing with their girls. I look forward to ALL of the above. My mother was able to pull it off, and I will too. My mother kicks it, travels, work, raised me and my brother, eats out damn near everyday, and has had a husband for goin on 19 years. If fact my mother is one of the biggest socialites around. And she had me right when she got out of college. We are some multi-taskin women! Im the type of person that doesn't view having a family as a hinderance. Its part of life. I aint tryna wait around and then have a 10 yr old when Im 43 or 44... I want to be developing and progressing in my career, and owning commercial property across the country with few strings attached.

i def. feel ya, cafe... one of my homegurls & i were having this discussion the other day....she always says whenever she thinks of a family...husband...and children of her own.....she thinks of THE END OF LIFE, LoL that's y she agrees moreso with Tiph....she wants to make sure EVERYthing is settled...and she's had all her fun...before she brings a family into the equation because she thinks that will just basically be doom day when that happens... i, on the other hand....agree with u.....i ain't tryin' to be an older mama....i want to be youthful...be able to relate to my kids....and have them feel like I can relate to them...want to be able to do many things with them........I've known a lot of people (particularly in the South) who have had older parents....and while that definitely works as well, my mother was always a lil' younger...she had me @ 23, so she's now 43....and I've always appreciated her being a lil' young - it's helped out a lot... I think it just depends on your own life experiences....like, if you see what works for some people in your life...and what doesn't seem to work for people you come across....you shape what you plan to do...around that.... that homegirl of mine, for instance, has an older mother and saw her work out well in waiting a while to have her.... I, on the other hand, look at my mother as having had me @ 23 and my brother @ 26....which made my dad 26 & 29 @ those times....and even though they ended up getting a divorce....they were cool 'till the end and my mother has been a SERIOUS phenomonal renaissance woman....being not only a mother, but also everything else she's wanted to be...and what she isn't yet, she's on her way to becoming.... most of everything positive that has happened or were given to my brother & i were all because of her....her by herself....and most people wouldn't even guess it.... so yeah, I see her and am just like...damn....hopefully that will be me... but like Cafe says, i guess it just depends on the person.... not everyone has to wait 'till 30 to be financially, emotionally, and mentally stable...OR finished of all of the fun that life has to offer...... especially for those who has done all that they want to do and get out of their system, even by now...as far as having care-free, non-commitment type fun.... I feel ya, Cafe - I think the whole marital and family life aren't burdens...but more like enhancements to one's life......whenever you are really ready and you know you're ready for all of the "pro"s and "con"s of whatever your choices present, go for it!

P o e t i q R e i g n from Greensboro, NC · May 2005

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& DAG, i can NEVER make anything BRIEF :x i'm sorry, guys...i try :-(

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· May 2005

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I feel you on the whole " some girls want to have that, some want to travel, ect ect" Where as you saw 19 years of marrital bliss. I was raised in a single parent home. I think in some ways I've seen ALOT more then a lot of people have seen because my perspective of marriage is really different. Not saying that marriage isnt an enhancement in life, cuz you know it is right. BUT I think its things I need to accomplish in my life before I go ahead and take that next step... Who wants to be like Bernadine from Waiting to Exhale...for damn sure not me. Like I said earlier Brett its whatever floats ya boat. I'm glad you have a goal cuz trust me most black females our age don't. I have goals as well, I'm just not including no man in em right now....if he comes along and ADDS to me then thats great. Lol the only thing we differ on is..." I'm grown"....pssshh. Girl I wish I would tell my momma that. I'd be standing outside in my one Girbaud outfit I bought MYSELF no car 1 pair of shoes lookin stupid as hell. :???: My momma WOULD do some ****like that tho. Like I dunno I've seen my cousins say they wanna be "GROWN" and one is stuck with a baby struggling to make it and the other his girl just left him after he dropped outta school for her...took care of her 2 kids...worked the midnight shift...let HER use his car...and got an apartment for HER and HER kids....because he wanted to be GROWN.... Fucck dat

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SC_Shawty from Columbia, SC · May 2005

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BuffaloSoldier08 wrote:
PowerofWoman wrote:
BuffaloSoldier08 wrote:
"Leave me along" (They know who I'm talkin about) :lol:
uhhh... NO. :???:

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cafe-aulait · May 2005

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Ms.H.B.I.C wrote:
Lol the only thing we differ on is..." I'm grown"....pssshh. Girl I wish I would tell my momma that. I'd be standing outside in my one Girbaud outfit I bought MYSELF no car 1 pair of shoes lookin stupid as hell. :???: My momma WOULD do some ****like that tho. Like I dunno I've seen my cousins say they wanna be "GROWN" and one is stuck with a baby struggling to make it and the other his girl just left him after he dropped outta school for her...took care of her 2 kids...worked the midnight shift...let HER use his car...and got an apartment for HER and HER kids....because he wanted to be GROWN.... Fucck dat

Girl I think Im grown. And I have since 9th grade. Thats how you have to be if you want to make progress in life. I have always been ahead of my time. My mother and father still support me financially, only b/c I am in college. My mother says if I werent in college, she wouldn't give me ish. As college students, we are making life-altering decisions as we speak. The internships we take this summer. The classes we enroll in. Whether you "wild out" in college or not. You should give yourself more credit. You could be doing all types of, as my mother says, "damn'dable" things, but you're in college. My mother doesnt baby me. I have been down in Florida by myself for 9 months, I am givin myself sometime of credit. I have grown so much since I went down school. We must think forward. You won't be the same person you are today, in 5 years. Nor will you be in the same position, financially or personally. Hopefully, by the time you are 23, you will have made an exceptional amount of advances. Who wants to be 23, and still think the same way they did when they were 19?