You know the sayings Daddy's Little girl and Mamas boy...well girls just how close are you to your fathers and how do they affect your lives is it just they're there and they get on your nerves or is it the feeling of "i dont know what i would do without that man"....and if your father hasnt been that present in your life for what ever reason do you think your life would have played out totally different if he was or pretty much the same....and on top of that do you think there is a need in the prescense of a father in the raising of a girl child or do u think all she needs is her mother to teach and guide her in the process of becoming a woman & Why?
PRAISE THE LORD!!!
WOW!!! :o You posed some thought provoking questions, I guess we'll see just how much space this post has...
My father played/plays a major role in my life. When I was younger I couldn't stand my dad. My mom and dad have been married for 30 years, but my dad didn't live with us the whole time. They started out living together, but as the kids came they needed a bigger place. Well, the only place they could afford was low income. My dad thought he was "too good" to stay there so he got his own place. He had a good job while my mom received public assistance. Since they were still married, she didn't get child support. When my dad did come, he came bearing gifts. He didn't realize that his presence was needed more than his presents. My mom never committed adultery, but I have 4 or 5 step-siblings because of my father. The oldest sibling's birthday is the same day as mine and the youngest is 4 or 5 years old. My dad had all the authority as a father when he came around. He made the rules & we had to follow them regardless of if he was there or not. If we didn't we had to answer to him when he came.
So, my father/daughter relationship was messed up, because I didn't respect him. I would be rebellious just because I didn't feel like I should have to listen. I didn't want to be in a relationship because I thought that's how it was suppose to be. The female had to do right, but the man could do whatever he wanted to do. Plus it seemed like I was always on restriction, but my brother could come and go whenever he pleased. I grew up with the mentality that life was unfair for a female, so I was going to make it fair for me. So, I started to do what I wanted, when I wanted and however I wanted to. I hardened my heart towards guys so that I could do what I wanted to them without feeling guilty. Plus I was so gifted with game, that I could make them do what I wanted and had them thinking that it was their idea. The only problem was when I got caught up, I really got caught up. If my dad had been in my life the way he was suppose to had been, my views of male/female relationships wouldn't have been so twisted. The only way my dad knew how to show he cared was through gifts and money. So, when I did fall for a guy, my spending money was my way of showing him that I cared. Now, I'm not taking away from my mom. When I was younger I thought that she was weak to stay married to my dad, but now I realize that she was actually strong for staying married to him. The only reason that I have a relationship with my dad now is because I am saved. I had to realize that no matter what he is my father and I owe him respect alone for that. I made amends with him because I know that if I would have died with that anger toward him in my heart I would have went to Hell. Now I can talk and laugh with my dad and it feels good. The older parents get the more they realize the role that they have played in their childs life. A lot want to do better and don't know how. My dad was part of a generational curse, where all of the men were "rolling stones!" I had to realize that he really didn't know how to show love the way I needed or deserved it. He didn't have the love of God in him to show him what real love was. So, now I just pray for him. I pray that he will get saved so that he can finally love my mother the way that she deserves to be loved. Plus I have some little brothers that are watching. A mother is not more important than a father is. Children need their mother and father. They need them to be in the same household. They need them to demonstrate what true love is. We all can become somebody with only a mom or a dad in the household, but the Lord didn't mean for it to be that way.
Just my $.02..
Currently, Im 17 and my relationship with my dad is strickly financial. Well when I was younger I had no relationship with my dad. He and my mom had gotten a divorce when I was 2 and I guess he was still way bitter from how it all went down. My brother who was about 15 when they divorced had loss a relationship with his father too. When I was 11 he had a stroke and I guess that humbled him because he started buying me all this stuff for holidays and what not. I dont really wonder what my life wouldve been like becuase I have no regrets of how I was raised by my mother and I always had male figures iny life because my brothers and I have such a big gap between us. I think he could have gotten more out of our realtionship if heas there a long time ago but that was his choice and I giuess that is what he has to live with. I do believe thatin so girls lives fathers can play a big role in how they choose to present themselves but that isnt always the case.
I don't have a realationship with my father he wasn't able to be there for me due to the demons he's dealing with. But I had an Uncle Deon who has my heart I love him so much he's my father in my eyes it may not be bioloigcally but everthings a father suspposed to do he did. Even when him and my aunt divorced he was still around. I think every little girl wants to be the apples of there's daddy's eye, and he allowed me to be that. I don't know how my life would've been different but I feel as if I wouldn't be the same person as I am today.
I suppose I am one of the blessed ones that was raised by a biological father. He is my heart and although we don't agree sometimes and he says hurtful things to me sometimes, I cannot see my life without him. I thank God for him being in my life, alive and well, for his health, and for his protection.
I call my Mommy my baby because of how she supported me throughout my life. Now I try to take care of her just as if she were my baby...the way she cared for me. But since we're talking about fathers, I love him too, but I guess it's something about mothers that's so inexplicable.
My Dad was always supportive. He is a hard working man, responsible, and home always came first. He worked too much and we hardly saw him sometimes but he always made time for us to play and talk with him. Our relationship is good but not as tight as with my Mommy.
my dad was in my life on and off when i was younger. he'd come and take me to the movies, his house, and stuff like that until the day he and my moms got back together. since then he's been living with us and is pretty distant. its sad but it feels like i live in the house with a stranger. my dad even admits that he has "lost me". i've always said that if he were to pass away today i would feel so guilty but at the same time it wouldnt be too hard to handle. i know thats such a sad thing to say but its the truth. as im in college i am trying to undo this lost connection but the busier i get with trying to live my life the more distant we become.
my mom on the other hand is just...i couldnt imagine life without her. she's been through abusive relationships (not wit my dad) and everything inbetween. she always told me how not to depend on a man. she's been there for me for everything. she and i would **** heads nonstop while i was in high school but now that im away at skool i miss her so much. the day she dies...man, im going to just lose it
my dad was in my life on and off when i was younger. he'd come and take me to the movies, his house, and stuff like that until the day he and my moms got back together. since then he's been living with us and is pretty distant. its sad but it feels like i live in the house with a stranger. my dad even admits that he has "lost me". i've always said that if he were to pass away today i would feel so guilty but at the same time it wouldnt be too hard to handle. i know thats such a sad thing to say but its the truth. as im in college i am trying to undo this lost connection but the busier i get with trying to live my life the more distant we become.
my mom on the other hand is just...i couldnt imagine life without her. she's been through abusive relationships (not wit my dad) and everything inbetween. she always told me how not to depend on a man. she's been there for me for everything. she and i would **** heads nonstop while i was in high school but now that im away at skool i miss her so much. the day she dies...man, im going to just lose it
When i moved to florida and the relationship between my father and i was going a tad bit sour he said the same thing.. he thought he was loosing me. At least knowing ya pops is better than wondering where he is and why he isnt there u know. So even though there is a strain in the relationship there is always that chance to sit your dad down and talk about why things are the way they are even though it would be kinda awkward but its worth it because guilt is one of the worse feelings especially when you cant go back and right the wrongs.
You know, the number of young ladies that grew/grow up without a father is is astonishing - to me especially. My father has always been there for myself and my sister, so when I date a girl and find out that there is yet another female who has grown up without a make figure in her life, I grow concerned. I don't care what anyone says, a girl needs a make figure in her life. A mother can't show a girl EVERYTHING about being a lady. There's some things that only a man can teach his daughter. Through her father, a girl learns what to expect from a man, how she should be treated, how she should behave, in addition to other things. I'm not saying that a fatherless household produces a bad product, however, the outcome could be better were there at least a male figure around. It **** to have to deal with a girl who has trust issues or doesn't know how to behave because she was never told (yeah, there's even 24 year olds that haven't quite caught on either). When I get more wild looks from a young woman because I helped her with her jacket than general acceptance, that's a damn problem.
My daddy plays a major part in my life. My parents have been married 24 years come November 26. I'm very blessed to have had both of my parents involved in my life. I think I'm the only one in my inner circle that has a relationship with their father. Some of my friends don't even know who their fathers are. It's quite a reality shock. I love my daddy to death. I am a true "daddy's girl". I'm closer to my daddy than I am to my mother. We always kick it together like i'm 7 years old. My daddy gives me the world because my sisters and I were always throught that we deserved just that, the world. Even though we argue, I still love and respect that man. He has no sons so the headaches that my sisters and I give him are nothing but pure hell. If he can go through that stiill today, he's a superman. My daddy loves my mom so much. She's ill right now and he stays beside her no matter what. That's true love. I want a man like my daddy. They really don't make them like that anymore though but I won't stop searching. And he won't let me settle for anything less. I <3 my daddy
My daddy plays a major part in my life. My parents have been married 24 years come November 26. I'm very blessed to have had both of my parents involved in my life. I think I'm the only one in my inner circle that has a relationship with their father. Some of my friends don't even know who their fathers are. It's quite a reality shock. I love my daddy to death. I am a true "daddy's girl". I'm closer to my daddy than I am to my mother. We always kick it together like i'm 7 years old. My daddy gives me the world because my sisters and I were always throught that we deserved just that, the world. Even though we argue, I still love and respect that man. He has no sons so the headaches that my sisters and I give him are nothing but pure hell. If he can go through that stiill today, he's a superman. My daddy loves my mom so much. She's ill right now and he stays beside her no matter what. That's true love. I want a man like my daddy. They really don't make them like that anymore though but I won't stop searching. And he won't let me settle for anything less. I <3 my daddy
Well according to my mom, the last time my dad saw me was when I was two. I don't know anything about him. I have no clue about what he looks like. I think about him sometimes. I can't say that I am really mad at him.Okay maybe a little bit but dealing with my mom can be VERY HARD! If anything I'm mad at him for not coming to get me so I could spend time with him instead of being stuck at home with her. The city he lives in is right next to my city. Maybe if I can find a way to contact him, I will send him a ticket to my graduation.
My father played/plays a major role in my life. When I was younger I couldn't stand my dad. 
My mom and dad have been married for 30 years, but my dad didn't live with us the whole time. They started out living together, but as the kids came they needed a bigger place. Well, the only place they could afford was low income. My dad thought he was "too good" to stay there so he got his own place. 
He had a good job while my mom received public assistance. Since they were still married, she didn't get child support. When my dad did come, he came bearing gifts. 
He didn't realize that his presence was needed more than his presents. My mom never committed adultery, but I have 4 or 5 step-siblings because of my father. The oldest sibling's birthday is the same day as mine and the youngest is 4 or 5 years old. My dad had all the authority as a father when he came around. He made the rules & we had to follow them regardless of if he was there or not. If we didn't we had to answer to him when he came.
So, my father/daughter relationship was messed up, because I didn't respect him. I would be rebellious just because I didn't feel like I should have to listen. 
I didn't want to be in a relationship because I thought that's how it was suppose to be. The female had to do right, but the man could do whatever he wanted to do. Plus it seemed like I was always on restriction, but my brother could come and go whenever he pleased. I grew up with the mentality that life was unfair for a female, so I was going to make it fair for me. So, I started to do what I wanted, when I wanted and however I wanted to. 
I hardened my heart towards guys so that I could do what I wanted to them without feeling guilty. Plus I was so gifted with game, that I could make them do what I wanted and had them thinking that it was their idea. The only problem was when I got caught up, I really got caught up. If my dad had been in my life the way he was suppose to had been, my views of male/female relationships wouldn't have been so twisted. The only way my dad knew how to show he cared was through gifts and money. So, when I did fall for a guy, my spending money was my way of showing him that I cared. Now, I'm not taking away from my mom. When I was younger I thought that she was weak to stay married to my dad, but now I realize that she was actually strong for staying married to him. The only reason that I have a relationship with my dad now is because I am saved. I had to realize that no matter what he is my father and I owe him respect alone for that. I made amends with him because I know that if I would have died with that anger toward him in my heart I would have went to Hell. Now I can talk and laugh with my dad and it feels good. 
The older parents get the more they realize the role that they have played in their childs life. A lot want to do better and don't know how. My dad was part of a generational curse, where all of the men were "rolling stones!" I had to realize that he really didn't know how to show love the way I needed or deserved it. He didn't have the love of God in him to show him what real love was. So, now I just pray for him. I pray that he will get saved so that he can finally love my mother the way that she deserves to be loved. Plus I have some little brothers that are watching. A mother is not more important than a father is. Children need their mother and father. They need them to be in the same household. They need them to demonstrate what true love is. 
We all can become somebody with only a mom or a dad in the household, but the Lord didn't mean for it to be that way.
