ok me and my "boyfriend" are going through some issues right now.First, this is what i guess u could call our "third round", because we have broken up twice before. Both times it was some straight up nonsense. Anyway, im thinking third times a charm..................SIKE. Everything is completley different this time around. We hardly talk, and we barley spend time together, and for the past few weeks, when i see him, its just because i ran into him while i was out. And the other week, when i ran into him, he introduced me as his girlfriend which suprised me (even though i am), because he definitley doesnt act like it. Supposedly hes "busy" all of the time, and he said that we're gonna "be together for real" as soon as everything calms down, but whenever i try to get at him he 1- doesnt respond (calls, texts), or he says he cant make it. Im saying, why not just let it go if hes not really into me? I have other people checking for me, and im sitting here thinking about his ****. I need a slap in the face or something, so someone please...help me out.l
There is a lack of communication in your relationship. Without communication, it is not going to work out. Obivously that is the problem. I think it is time to move on to someone else that will make time for you.
I am going to be real with you. I understand what you are going through because as a woman we can get really attached to someone even if it is not that serious. I have just this year gone through a similar issue with this guy that I was talking to we were real tight and then all of a sudden he just would not return my calls right away and when he did and I confronted him about it he was not that nice. To give you the picture this dumb guy just totally stop answering my calls and the next time I saw him he would not talk to me. THis situation is a little different but the whole point is that you deserve better and if he can treat you better than that and give you the respect as his girlfriend than regardless of whatever he is going through, you are going to have to let it go because without communication there is not much of a relationship. It even appears that you two are not really in one, more like you are just hanging. I also would suggest that you talk to him about how your feeling because he needs to know how you feel and then you won't be woundering what's going on, you will know. If he chooses to be opened with you than you will know where you stand.
Have you talked to him about it? May be you need to be the one to confront him about it. Instead of seeing what happens make it happen by talking to him. Like what most of the people in this post are saying, communication is key in a relationship and if you don't got it, it's not gonna work. Tell him how you feel, ask him where the relationship is going? Just ask questions.
Okay i'm done putting in my own input...
Ladies, I think this is one of our downfalls. We know the answers to our own questions but yet we still stay. I think you know exactly what is going on, you just feel a need to justify staying with him. You feel like if you wait, someday he will come around not realizing that you are breaking yourself down in the process. You are allowing yourself to be put on the backburner but your worth is greater than that. And for success in future relationships you need to keep that sense of worth.
Love is a strong thing and it can blind you...but is it love?
Ladies, I think this is one of our downfalls. We know the answers to our own questions but yet we still stay. I think you know exactly what is going on, you just feel a need to justify staying with him. You feel like if you wait, someday he will come around not realizing that you are breaking yourself down in the process. You are allowing yourself to be put on the backburner but your worth is greater than that. And for success in future relationships you need to keep that sense of worth.
Love is a strong thing and it can blind you...but is it love?
