i had been meaning 2 propose this question 4 a week & some change now...but it slipped my mind...'till now....
in light of the tragedy that occurred on A&T's campus a little under 2 weeks ago, my friend alex & i were talking about the details of the situation, if the guy knew he had any health issues, if his family knew, etc. etc. (while the cause of death was still unknown)...
now, that dipped off into another conversation...about if we knew we were going to die in maybe a week or 2...would we tell anyone? "anyone," as in family, friends, etc...
I said...i would want to tell at least my mom, brother, other family members, and some friends....
because i think it's most tragic when life is going well & the loved one is caught completely off-guard by one's sudden death....especially being that they didn't get to say their official goodbyes...
but ALEX's thing was....he wouldn't tell anyone...because he thinks that's causing for them to suffer and hurt twice....1st, when u tell them u're going to die...and then, when u actually do...
plus...he wouldn't want their last memories of him to be sad and depressing ones (him sayin' goodbye & whatnot)...he'd want them to just remember the good times, memories, & whatnot...
i could see where he was coming from...
and THEN...we agreed that maybe we didn't necessarily have to tell them...but make sure we get all of our goodbyes and final words to the people & allow for them to at least say "I love you" and the like to you right before it happens....so they'll be more @ peace after u've gone..even if they didn't expect it...
but i said...@ THAT point...people would probably suspect that u committed **** :?...'cause in other words, "y was so&so saying things that implied he/she knew he/she would be leaving soon???"...& he agreed w/ me on that too...
so, i don't know....but how do ya'll feel...if u knew a week or so in advance that u would be leaving this earth soon...would u squeal? if so, to whom? and if not, why not? u agree w/ alex?
i agree with your friend alex, i wouldnt tell ne one but i would say my goodbyes but i would be really really subtle with it like u said u dont want them to think you commited ****, i would probably do something like record a video message and leave my final wishes laid out exactly
I'd tell everyone everything i ever really wanted to say, but in normal conversation so it doesn't seem like i'm going through some pre-suicidal confessions or something. But I wouldn't tell anybody i was terminally ill, 'cause i don't know of anyone I can trust who would keep that information to themself
i agree with your friend alex, i wouldnt tell ne one but i would say my goodbyes but i would be really really subtle with it like u said u dont want them to think you commited ****, i would probably do something like record a video message and leave my final wishes laid out exactly
I would definitly tell people, my peeps/family that is. I think it will be easier for them when I pass. I often times wonder who would really miss me if I died.....
I feel what everyone is saying. I was really caught off guard when I lost my dad about 3 years ago and again when one of my classmates died before graduation. However, I don't even know if I could bring myself to tell anyone that I was doomed to die because frankly it could possibly be a miracle that I live. Also, you never know when someone is actually going to die; it's not one of those things that one should ever anticipate.
i agree with your friend alex, i wouldnt tell ne one but i would say my goodbyes but i would be really really subtle with it like u said u dont want them to think you commited ****, i would probably do something like record a video message and leave my final wishes laid out exactly
I feel what everyone is saying. I was really caught off guard when I lost my dad about 3 years ago and again when one of my classmates died before graduation. However, I don't even know if I could bring myself to tell anyone that I was doomed to die because frankly it could possibly be a miracle that I live. Also, you never know when someone is actually going to die; it's not one of those things that one should ever anticipate.
yeah, i understand what you're saying...but it was a strictly hypothetical question of if you know for SURE...as in absolutely NO DOUBTS whatsoever...
not like if a doctor told you you have 3 months left or something...i mean, in this question, u're DEFINITELY SURE
I feel what everyone is saying. I was really caught off guard when I lost my dad about 3 years ago and again when one of my classmates died before graduation. However, I don't even know if I could bring myself to tell anyone that I was doomed to die because frankly it could possibly be a miracle that I live. Also, you never know when someone is actually going to die; it's not one of those things that one should ever anticipate.
yeah, i understand what you're saying...but it was a strictly hypothetical question of if you know for SURE...as in absolutely NO DOUBTS whatsoever...
not like if a doctor told you you have 3 months left or something...i mean, in this question, u're DEFINITELY SURE
In that case I would tell my fam because quality time is always important even in your last hours.
I feel what everyone is saying. I was really caught off guard when I lost my dad about 3 years ago and again when one of my classmates died before graduation. However, I don't even know if I could bring myself to tell anyone that I was doomed to die because frankly it could possibly be a miracle that I live. Also, you never know when someone is actually going to die; it's not one of those things that one should ever anticipate.
yeah, i understand what you're saying...but it was a strictly hypothetical question of if you know for SURE...as in absolutely NO DOUBTS whatsoever...
not like if a doctor told you you have 3 months left or something...i mean, in this question, u're DEFINITELY SURE
In that case I would tell my fam because quality time is always important even in your last hours.
