yesterday during my workstudy, my friend Johnny was telling me about this song on Destiny Child's newest album called "I'll Cater to You"...
& he was trying to explain to me what the song was about....pretty much about a woman doing all that it takes to keep her man happy, and he was quoting actual lines from the song ("I'll tie your do-rag" "I'll brush your teeth" or some ish like that)...
he wuz like, YES - i want a woman like THAT!
i was like, "maan, bump THAT!"
aiight...so the whole time, this dude i call "Tuna Boy" (long story, inside joke) was listenin' in & i guess was intrigued by my saying "bump that!" & wanted 2 know y i felt that way...& this is pretty much what i said & how i feel about that...
(*quoting this from my Xanga instead of typing it all out again*)
AggieSysta/PoetiqReign'z Xanga wrote:
i wanted 2 re-phrase tho..didn't want him or anyone else to think i wouldn't try to make my man happy, either in a non-marital relationship or a marital one...
my thing is...i will try to make him happy within reason...as i hope he would do the same for me...you know, a 50/50-type situation...
plus...and this was the key point because this is what really started thingz up 'tween me & "Tuna Boy"...
i said i'm not into the wife being submissive to her husband...
"Tuna Boy," on the other hand...is...
so yeah...we had a SLIGHT conflict with that...but it was all good....he wants his woman home with the kids, taking care of the family, and doing a lot of what he says...
i would consider being at home with the kids, but i'll be damned if i'm doing everything you say just because you said it....i'm product of the CLAIRE HUXTABLE image, DAMMIT!!so yeah...that'z what i meant by BUMP THAT!
u ain't runnin' this house...we runnin' it together....
so how do ya'll feel about all of that?? fellaz - do u want your wife to be 'submissive'? ladiez - r u willing to take on the 'submissive' role? r u mixed between both sidez...what'z up?
If I have a man who is taking care of me, his house and home and treats me like I am his queen I would have no problem running his bath water, giving him massages, brushing his hair, etc. My pleasure is pleasuring a man so I have no problem making him feel like a king.
Being submisssive is different. That means he has absolute contol over your life and you do anything he tells you. A relationship is 50/50 (if you old school like me it's 60/40) and if he caters to your needs return the favor but I won't be run over.
LoL i feel u, megan....
like i said, i won't mind doing everything i can to make him happy, but i believe in tha 50/50 and would hope he would do the same for me...
but nah, ol' dude meant he wants his wife SUBMISSIVE...as in...yeah, he hopes that she does everything she can to make him happy, but he wants her to do all that she says as well....
i'm not sure he meant the extent of "caveman/cavewoman"-type mentality, but i don't know...but he did say he wants her 2 do all that he sayz, so....
I have no problem trying to make someone happy or "catering" to him, but brushing his teeth. Thas a little too far for me. And "Tuna Boy" is out his natural mind :roll: . I'm not about to have a man tellin me what to do. His name is not on my birth certificate, so therefore he is not my father (hell my daddy don't even tell me what to do). There is no problem if it is a give and take thing, but one person can't be doing all the work, and I know I need someone assertive, but there is a difference between assertive and demanding. You best believe I will have my fair share of time to be assertive too.
I have no problem trying to make someone happy or "catering" to him, but brushing his teeth. Thas a little too far for me. And "Tuna Boy" is out his natural mind :roll: . I'm not about to have a man tellin me what to do. His name is not on my birth certificate, so therefore he is not my father (hell my daddy don't even tell me what to do). There is no problem if it is a give and take thing, but one person can't be doing all the work, and I know I need someone assertive, but there is a difference between assertive and demanding. You best believe I will have my fair share of time to be assertive too.
now see THIS...is what i'm talkin about...preCISEly...
If I have a man who is taking care of me, his house and home and treats me like I am his queen I would have no problem running his bath water, giving him massages, brushing his hair, etc. My pleasure is pleasuring a man so I have no problem making him feel like a king.
Being submisssive is different. That means he has absolute contol over your life and you do anything he tells you. A relationship is 50/50 (if you old school like me it's 60/40) and if he caters to your needs return the favor but I won't be run over.
:oes the happy dance:::
SAY IT AGIAN!!! SAY IT AGAIN!!!
That's how I was raised. To cater to your soulmate. Never submissive but to keep a smile on their face becasue they one on your face can't be erased. Make that man NEVER wanna leave your side, especially if he is a good man. Let him know that ****is at home and him lurking somewhere else to get it is 1. a mistake 2. a mistake and 3. dangerous..... :evil:
If I have a man who is taking care of me, his house and home and treats me like I am his queen I would have no problem running his bath water, giving him massages, brushing his hair, etc. My pleasure is pleasuring a man so I have no problem making him feel like a king.
Being submisssive is different. That means he has absolute contol over your life and you do anything he tells you. A relationship is 50/50 (if you old school like me it's 60/40) and if he caters to your needs return the favor but I won't be run over.
:oes the happy dance:::
SAY IT AGIAN!!! SAY IT AGAIN!!!
That's how I was raised. To cater to your soulmate. Never submissive but to keep a smile on their face becasue they one on your face can't be erased. Make that man NEVER wanna leave your side, especially if he is a good man. Let him know that ****is at home and him lurking somewhere else to get it is 1. a mistake 2. a mistake and 3. dangerous..... :evil:
im gonna say that i too will try to make my man happy and step out of my way to do that especially if he is doing the same for me in return. i disagree with the stay at home mother figure because what happens to that woman when her husband devorces her after many years. Not all the time do the women get so much money from their devorces that they can just not work. that situation kinda leave a woman stuck. i'll be damned if i have to depend on some1 else more than i depend on myself to be able to survive.
i disagree with the stay at home mother figure because what happens to that woman when her husband devorces her after many years. Not all the time do the women get so much money from their devorces that they can just not work. that situation kinda leave a woman stuck. i'll be damned if i have to depend on some1 else more than i depend on myself to be able to survive.
i disagree with the stay at home mother figure because what happens to that woman when her husband devorces her after many years. Not all the time do the women get so much money from their devorces that they can just not work. that situation kinda leave a woman stuck. i'll be damned if i have to depend on some1 else more than i depend on myself to be able to survive.
Cosigns
double cosignz...that'z another point i wuz tryna make 2 "Tuna Boy"
oes the happy dance:::
SAY IT AGIAN!!! SAY IT AGAIN!!!
That's how I was raised. To cater to your soulmate. Never submissive but to keep a smile on their face becasue they one on your face can't be erased. Make that man NEVER wanna leave your side, especially if he is a good man. Let him know that ****is at home and him lurking somewhere else to get it is 1. a mistake 2. a mistake and 3. dangerous..... :evil: 
